Sat here very tearful after yet another blow out between myself and my younger sister. I'm so stuck as to what to do.
I'm currently living at home with my dd who's just turned 9 months as I'm a single parent, staying with my parents and sister. She has from what I can remember, always been quite what I would call violent, despite being a lovely kid. But in recent months she's becoming impossble. She has the usual teeneage fc you attitude but being the youngest she's very spoilt and gets away with a lot more than I ever used to.
I'm suffering from post natal depression and recieving treatment for it, so I will admit it must be very hard living with me sometimes. My sister knows a lot of how I feel but still taunts me knowing I'm feeling very low. I've been told by my doctors that should an argument occur, to get well away from it by leaving the room. But I can't because she'll follow me and menatlly and physically attack me.
Tonight she stormed upstairs and came into the study and shouted 'what the fc are you doing, I was on the computer! Get off. Now.'
I replied as calmly as I could that she hadn't been on the computer for over an hour and a half and she could get on soon, as I was just checking some emails. This wasn't good enough for her. She wanted on. Now. She persisted screaming at me until I was very nearly at breaking point. I got up and said that I wouldn't be long and went to shut the door. She slammed the door back at me and it flew into the left side of my body hurting my foot, head and side. The door flew past me and I was in complete shock, she then stareted pushing and shoving me hard to get past onto the computer. When I refused to move she launched into a full on slapping and punching fest that briefly ended when I finally snapped and slapped her arm off of me. This angered her more and she started again. We were both screaming at each other at which point my dad is making his way up wondering what's going on. She then started yelping and crying claiming that I've been punching her etc. I wasn't, I was literally trying to get her off of me.
My parents then both came up clearly angry, my sister locked herself in her room and crying as dramatically as she could. Both my parents turned on me claiming that this couldn't go on. I was very shaken and put on me running gear, asked my mum to watch dd and went out running to get away. I came home and I'm getting the cold shoulder treatment whitst they're all sat down in the living room having feckin family fun and laughing like nothing has happened.
I am still very shaken and tearful and don't know what to do. This is just one of many instances where this sort of thing has happened. And for some reason I always seem to be held responsible, perhaps because I'm the oldest. The fact that I didn't start any of it or that I tried to walk away doesn't register with them. It's just always my fault. I've just found a clump of my hair in the doorway to the study where it's obviously been ripped out by her earlier.
I feel so far beyond awful at the minute, I can't keep living like this. And I don't want my dd growing up around this either. What can I do?
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My 14 year old sister has become increasingly violent towards me and I feel like I'm sinking.
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MumtoCharlotteMay · 27/02/2008 21:31
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