I could do with a bit of advice....
I have 2 DDs 18 and 15 yrs old. With regards to my 18yo, she takes her last A level today and hopefully will get the grades to get into Uni in the autumn.
She is a good kid on the whole... works hard at school and works hard at a part time job outside of school, so earns her own money.
However, she is BONE IDLE!!! For the last few months I have let it go a bit because she has this evergreen excuse 'Mum, I am revising... studying... working hard for my exams blah blah' However, she has now finished her exams and I've told her that as soon as her exams finish, things have gotta change!
She does zilch in the house... her room is not a total mess as such, because it has been newly decorated and refurbished about 6 months ago so is easy to keep tidy.
However, she does nothing else. If she gets a letter in the post, she leaves the envelope lying around, as well as apple cores, crisp bags etc. I cannot think of one thing she does despite constant nagging from me. If I ask her to unpack the dishwasher, she will get round to it half a day later.... too late!!
My problem is.... I have no 'levers'. I don't give her any money.. she pays her way for everything (mobile, drinks, social life etc). So money is not a lever. When I get fed up with it I tell her that I will stop doing things for her if she does nothing for me... but all I do for her is cook meals, her washing and ironing. OK, I can stop doing her ironing but that is not gonna cause her a great problem, tbh. She drives and has her own car, so I can't withdraw lifts.
She doesn't go to Uni until end sept and I think it is gonna drive me mad! From now on, it will be constant partying and I think she is gonna be like an annoying flatmate who does nothing.
I have no idea where to start to get her to do things... I am working up to the 'big chat' round the kitchen table but need to be able to threaten her with something... I just don't know what! Any ideas, anyone?
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.
Teenagers
Calling all wise mums of teens (18 yrs old and over)..... advice needed!
55 replies
chenin · 19/06/2007 14:57
OP posts:
amicissima ·
19/06/2007 17:35
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.