She's not strictly a teen....she's 12 but seems to think she's 15...
We live in Oz. Every year there's a big county type fair thing....it's a huge deal...has a fairground, lots of live entertainment, stalls, attractions...massive.
Anyway...we're all going, DH, younger DD and I.... and I told DD who is 12 that she could bring a friend...fine. So her mate from school is coming...who is a lovely girl but allowed a bit more freedom than DD is it seems.
Her Mum is of a different culture (Chinese) so not sure if that's anything to do with it but she never seems to mind her DDs (she has 4 of them) going out and about and not reporting back in or particularly letting her know where they are.
DD says that she wants us to stay at the fair till' 10.00pm...it starts at 9.00am!
Apparently the fair;s more exciting after dark etc.
So DH has work in the morning and it's an hour's drive...so we said no...we will stay till about 6...it gets dark at 5 so they'll have some "Darkness" but that's that.
She thinks it's ok for us to leave her at this fair...aged 12...in the dark...and come and get her OR let her come home with her mate's Mum who will also be there with her friends and some family.
We've said no as it's too vague and her mate's mum is a bit lax.We're happy for DD and her mate to wander off on their own during the daylight hours...they've both got phones...we won't expect them to hang out with us!
But we don't want them doing that after 6.00pm...they serve alcohol at the fair and there will be loads of drunken people about by evening time...DD's friend looks about 15 and we're basically worried they;ll be approached by boys...older boys...or that they will accidentally get separated and the place is enormous.
Are we mean? We've said no...you must come back with us at 6.00pm.
It's so hard...but instinct says no. What do you think?
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VioletBam · 08/09/2016 12:19
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