My ex H found out last night that our DS2's GF is pregnant. About 7 weeks. They are both 17. They been together less than 2 months. I'm walking round like a zombie today with so many things going through my head, I just feel so deeply in shock. My youngest is only 11 weeks old.
My DP and I came back from taking the children on holiday yesterday and DS2 didn't let on anything at all all week. He was completely normal - chatty, playing with his baby brother, no clue at all. I've been through so much with him - drugs, bad behaviour at school and college - and I thought we were close. I am so sad that he couldn't talk to me.
I've messaged him at his dad's to say that my DP and I will support him and his girlfriend whatever she chooses - I've also reiterated to my ex and DS that it is entirely her decision and that our DS will have to support her no matter what - apparently my DS would rather she didn't have the baby but he does fully accept that it's her decision and that he cannot walk away from the situation. I won't let him! His dad however isn't replying to any messages at all and I feel completely shut out.
I don't know his GF as he's been rather cagey about her but I did have "the talk" again with him when I first found out he had a GF. I do know where she lives as I've given him lifts to and from before. I don't want to turn up on the doorstep but I do want to let her and her parents know that I will do anything they want to support their daughter. I was wondering about writing a short letter saying this and giving my contact details and putting it through the door? This must be such a shock to them and I don't want to stick myself in where I'm not wanted.
I feel like my guts have been wrenched inside out. They've both been so silly to end up in this situation and neither of them fully understand the lifelong consequences of whatever decision she chooses to make.
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ProbablyMe · 23/07/2016 12:19
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