Briefly, my son went to tramlines in Sheffield last year with friends (16, almost 17 at the time). The gigs are at different locations around the city, and we weren't too keen on him drinking and walking around, to the point where my dh even said his concern was ds getting hit by a car.
Which I thought was dh being dramatic, but ds was hit by a car on the first night. His friends took him to the hospital, had his head glued, loads of cuts and bruises on his body and face but he stayed in Sheffield and continued going around the festival. Didn't tell us so we got a huge shock when he walked in the door on the Monday night!
So now ds is 17, turns 18 in 2 weeks. He just finished 6th form and has been looking for a pt job until uni, as well as staying up late playing ps and lying in until the afternoon.
Dh told ds we wouldn't be giving him any money for the festival (ticket, hotel, transport, food etc) so if he wanted to go he would have to pay for himself.
Ds borrowed the money from his gf for the ticket, and now he needs money to book the hotel.
He finally got a job at a supermarket last week, but only starts next week, so not in time to have money for the hotel.
Dh will not lend ds the money because he doesn't want him to go. He is sure something terrible will happen based on what happened last year.
I feel conflicted. He is almost 18 and if he had the money himself we wouldn't be able to stop him. But he doesn't. He is asking to borrow, not us to pay. I would like ds to be able to go with all his friends and have a good time, but of course dh keeps going on about it will be my fault if something happens if I've lent him the money and I am scared too.
Everytime ds comes out of his room he looks sad saying he will have to sell the ticket now and how much he had been looking forward to it but we are stopping him. But then dh says if he had his own money we wouldn't be able to stop him, but we're just not lending it to him.
Are we unfairly stopping him by not lending him the money? I just can't think straight about it in my head now!
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17yr old was hit by car last year at festival-pay for him go this year??
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everlysu · 06/07/2016 08:21
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