Or am I over reacting?
DS1 is 17. He is diagnosed as on the Autistic Spectrum. That is no excuse or reason for what he's said to me, but damn, we fought for that diagnosis!
We have fought for DS1 from the moment he was conceived. I lived a somewhat "fast" lifestyle when he was conceived. I had a very large disposable income. I had a 60 hour a week job 70 miles from home. I liked to party, and basically spend my money having a good time and nice things.
When I announced my pregnancy not one person said "Congratulations". Several people suggested an abortion. My boss stood with an open mouth for at least 5 minutes longer than is polite.
I gave up my job as soon as I could take maternity leave. I stopped smoking and drinking immediately. I ate only organic food. I diligently took fish oils and vitamins. I nearly lost DS1when I had a kidney infection at 23 weeks pregnant and spent a week on a drip. It was the most horrendous birth. I was traumatised, and with hindsight could have done with some counselling. DS1 was a "difficult" baby. I would never have used that word, or "demanding". But he was hungry and needy. He sucked every ounce of fat off me which then I saw as a bonus bun now realise wasn't healthy.
But he was gorgeous, and perfect. I love him with every cell of my body.
I was determined to give him the best. Not just the best but THE BEST. If you search hard enough, you will probably find posts where I lament when he was 12yo that I didn't sent him to a top public school, despite many of his less bright peers going there. But we did go to a lot of effort to find the right school for him, knowing he wouldn't walk out with all A*, but he would be happy.
He has struggled with school, especially when younger. He school refused. He was "challenging" "willful" and "off task" for years.
He did very well OK in his GCSEs then decided in February 6th form was too much, and hasn't really left his bedroom since.
Anyway, Sunday evening dinner. I jokingly told of my disappointment at getting a sleeping bag for my 18th birthday. DH jokingly told of his frustration of having to wait 9 months for set he's paid his parents for with his pocket money, but they kept on saying it hadn't arrived in the post, then gave him the set + his money on Christmas day.
We asked the DC what their most disappointing present has been. DS2 said "I don't want to say, but I really liked getting a drum kit, and a road bike both second hand and £50 each.
DS1 said "My birth. Definitely the worst thing ever on my birthday was just being born."
I said I couldn't say what I wanted to in reply becuase DS2 was there. DH was just . DS1 left the room, and I did explain to DS2, why I was upset, and DS2 was obviously very uncomfortable.
Please tell me I'm over reacting by crying. DS1 is 17, and DH says he just thought he was being funny and clever.
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LynetteScavo · 26/06/2016 19:33
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