DD 14 is quite lovely occasionally but I am noticing parts of her personality emerging which I dislike (understatement)! I am sure they all go through it, but I have tried gentle guiding and more cut the crap approach but she continues regardless. This phase has only emerged in the last 18months.
She seems to have an almost daily drama with someone or another generally they go "so and so said this about me to X, so I asked X, X said Y said it but then Y said it was W! God I hate them" followed by heated telephone exchanges and lots of winding each other up on social media. She just always takes the bait she does have ASD but is very high functioning and you'd never really know. I wonder if this is why she will NEVER just leave it she will have it out to the bitter end rather than shrugging it off and saying "I don't care" or if all teens do it. I get the impression others use her as she is very confrontational its like light the firework and watch with joy. Her friendship circle are not ideal, they could be worse not criminal drug addicts or anything just bitchy and diva ish! Her phone is always buzzing with dramas why can she just not walk away. I can see she will make herself very unpopular if she continues to be so full of hate! She has been the victim of bullying and now sadly some of her behaviour could be seen as low level bullying. She is lovely to people till people stir her up then she will always react. I find it tiring the constant in and outs of her friendships and the negativity! They all seem to love winding her up persuade her that such and such wants her boyfriend etc! She thinks its her place to have a say even when it has NOTHING to do with her! Sometimes this can be for a nice reason in her eyes e.g. she ran screaming and swearing at the "hard" kids for bullying someone else but other times its just interfering and unnecessary the things she does could potentially put her in a very dangerous situation but she doesn't seem to care.
Any other like this?! I find it quite depressing spending time with her atm (bad mum I know) but its always so hate hate hate. I am just not enjoying watching her create this reputation for herself when its not really her.
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Dramatic DD. Sick of the daily dramas and hatred!
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katie4242 · 19/06/2015 17:23
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