DS is 17, very reserved/private. For more than a year, into weight training, physical fitness… having a good physique seems very important to him. Keen on parties more recently, he had never been at all sociable until about six months ago. Not at all communicative. His grades are all over the place but always have been…
Going through his pockets before putting on a load of laundry I found a very small transparent polythene sachet (of the type you might get spare buttons in when you buy a new shirt, but just a bit smaller). It reminded me that DH and I had found two similar sachets under the sofa after a party DS had had at our house, maybe two months ago.
So we did a proper search of his room. Cleverly hidden we found a small bong and some rizzlas.
We looked online (FRANK, great website and chat room for real-time support) before talking to him. Thank goodness because it was our initial idea to come down very hard, involve police and school, get extremely punitive. After talking to FRANK advisers we took a more “concerned” line when we spoke to DS, and he was VERY convincing when he told us that the bong and rizzlas belonged to a friend whose mum regularly went through his room as she knew he had a habit. He said he had told his friend that drugs were a bad idea but had agreed to keep the stuff for him. Would not tell us the name of this friend and we did not push as DS told us that would be useless and we also reasoned that this kid’s mum was well aware that he was using… but of course we confiscated the paraphernalia and told DS to tell his friend that he was no longer willing to hold stuff for him.
DS told us (unsolicited) that he cared too much about his health to do any drugs himself, and on this point he was very believable.
He was less convincing about the sachets. Swore that they were for buttons -- but he has never been at all interested in buttons and he failed to explain how sachet got into pocket sans buttons. Had he perhaps taken the buttons out and stashed them somewhere in case he felt like a bit of sewing? Not like DS at all. Buttons, needlework, clothes in general are not his area of interest. Plus, there was no little hole for the tag that usually attaches the sachet to the shirt.
DH and I have told nobody but a very discreet close friend who we thought might know more about the sachets – could be a local thing (Paris area). They seem too small to hold even a rizzla-worth of cannabis or whatever. Pills of some sort??? It’s quite scary really.
Is there any way we could go about finding out? (lab analysis for instance?). It’s really a long shot but with DS’s fascination for building up his body I don’t think we can rule out the dreaded steroids…
I am sorry for anyone who has had similar, but hope you might help… do you think we have reacted OK? How did you deal with your situation and how did it all work out?
What on god's earth could there have been in that tiny sachet (1.5 inch by 2 inches max, possibly a bit smaller)???
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shockthemonkey · 06/03/2015 09:57
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