Reading erotica instead of revising

[Katieblack99]

I thought my 15 year old daughter was revising hard for her January exams. We had worked out a revision timetable with plenty of breaks and fun stuff built in. I did her morning chores so she could make best use of the time while she was at her brightest. Lots of lovely snacks food on tap. She got dreadful results. Whilst looking through her e mails, which I do occasionally, I noticed a receipt from i Tunes. As we had given her some vouchers for Christmas I thought I would see what she'd bought. I discovered she'd purchased of around £100 in value of VERY adult themed erotic books, BDSM, Etc with titles I wouldn't ever consider repeating on here. She's bought and read about 60 of these in the last two months. Mostly I suspect when she should have been revising.
What do I do now about...
Access to tech- all bought and read on her iPhone
Pocket money-clearly not being spent on suitable things
Exams-how do I make her revise for her GCSEs
The morality of the books and where does that lead her with relationships sex etc

I feel totally lost. She's a lovely girl, on the face of it, well mannered, engaging, bright, no trouble at school and now this - out of the blue.

Help please

[azA99]

Buy her this book:

What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girls Shame Free Guide to Sex & Safety. By Jaclyn Freedman.

Before you give it to her, read it yourself. I wish I'd read it at that age and when I shared this book with my two daughters, I realised it was me who needed to read it most. It's an amazing book.


She'll be fine. She's a lovely girl whatever she's interested in. She's getting informed and the two key aspects of the book I've recommended above ('shame-free' and 'safety') are what matter more than every bit of her exams. Without shame, and knowing that you want her to be safe, she'll probably do really really well in her exams and in her future. All those snacks sound amazing, by the way.

ps I have snooped and read stuff I shouldn't, and part of me really regrets it and part of me doesn't ....but I'd never do it again as it caused the greatest hurt to my daughter and I've learned from this. It's what we do with the information that wasn't intended for us in the first place that matters.