My son attempted suicide in the summer. The ambulance came and picked me up on the way to A&E. I love my children more than anything and the experience totally unravelled me. We had been struggling for a while, outbursts of rage (he assaulted someone at college) and a visit to A&E for an alcohol related collapse, he told me he was smoking cannabis, my Nan's wedding ring disappeared... Lots of lies and disappearances. He has had counselling, decided he no longer needs it, dropped out of college and sits on my computer all day. He has outbursts of rage - smashed up several keyboards and mice and my computer desk is ruined. He refuses to wash or change his bed sheets, his room is a mess and he wont help with anything around the house. I can't do anything. I am so afraid of him killing himself I do nothing. I go to the bathroom and cry because I can't stand to hear him screaming - my house is small so it doesn't really help! Just before Christmas he got himself some temporary contract work - the minute he got paid he disappeared again. I asked him to contribute some rent money, we have been struggling as on a low income and without his child benefit and tax credits we don't have enough money to live on, he told me had spent it. He then disappeared again. Today he sent me a text saying he was coming to pick up a TV and some films because he was bored. I think something in me snapped and I said no. He sent me another text saying he was coming to get it anyway. I told him not to bother coming back at all and that he could post about being thrown out of home on Facebook for real this time (on two previous occasions he has done this - whilst I have been frantic with worry trying to find out where he is and check he is OK) I told him I loved him but I have nothing left to give. I know this was stupid but I'm at breaking point. I'm under so much pressure at the moment, financially things are really bad and Christmas is always a horrible time for me. Am being made redundant in the summer and have ongoing medical problems which make my employment prospects pretty poor. I'm trying so hard to be strong and happy for my youngest son, who is a really good lad, but I can't cope anymore. I'm exhausted and everything I say or do just seems to make matters worse. Not sure there is a solution to this - just need someone to tell me it will get better.
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