I haven't quite got a teen yet but looking for advice from those that are already there...
DS (Y8 and 13 in Jan) has obviously started hitting puberty hard and fast, massive growth and looks like a different child if you compare him now with a photograph from last xmas. So I know he is a mass of hormones but:
He is just so rude and unpleasant much of the time that it is really getting me down and affecting the atmosphere of the whole house. He is also pretty lazy and needs nagging to do stuff but I could do battle with that without it getting to me if it wasn't for the nastiness.
He has no enthusiasm for anything apart from being in his room on xbox/watching dvds on his own or with one or both of his best mates. We have put a timer on the xbox but he gets round that by going to aforementioned friend's houses and getting extra gaming time there.
He complains bitterly about having to do anything as a family even though we are careful to build lots of free time into weekends/school holidays. He even whinged on holiday about missing his friends/xbox. At dinner time he rushes to finish as quickly as possible and we rarely get any pleasant conversation out of him.
He is horrible to me a lot of the time and to DD (10) but saves the worst of his nastiness for DH. DH is a really devoted dad, desperate for a good relationship with DS and has come recently to the conclusion that DS has no desire to share any of his outdoorsy/sporting hobbies and has been trying more low key ways to spend time with him like recording a programme he thinks DS might fancy watching with him. Usually DS will just say no and go off to his room.
He really upset DH last night. DH is away on business most of the week and had face timed home. Me and DD spoke to him and then i took the iPad though to DS's bedroom so they could talk. DS managed a couple of pleasant sentences and then his eyes glazed over and his started answering in vague one word answers. Then DH said "Oh don't bother then, give me back to mum" and was raging on to me about how things had changed, was such a shame, etc. Yes, I know he needs to stop giving DS such a reaction.
Positives: of course we love him very much. DS is bright, funny and good company when he wants to be. He is doing well at school where apparently he has a wide circle of friends and is well behaved (!). DS says he saves his "good juice" for school and grandparents (for whom he is a delight) and has none left for home.
So if you have got this far, does this sound like normal almost teen behaviour? Best teen book recommendations? Hope that DC can be like this and come out as pleasant human beings at the other side?
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DS (12) so rude and nasty much of the time, his relationship with DH going downhill fast. I need to vent (long)
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Flyonthewindscreen · 19/09/2014 14:12
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