We had an 'interesting' summer with DS(13) and resulted in many chats and a period of not getting on. More upset rather than shouting though.
Part of the outcome of this was that we said we'd be keeping a closer eye on him. All as part of we really love him, don't want him to mess up his life and we will always be there for him etc.
This week he is like a transformed character, him and I have been getting on great. Have even spent cuddle time together watching football on Monday night etc, like the old days. It's been lovely.
This morning I saw a message on his facebook, was open, I know I shouldn't have looked and no good comes to snoopers etc and I clearly now know that so please don't flame me for that. Anyway there was a message to a friend last night saying
"HI, I'm talking to my parents again, I'm alright with my dad but me and my mum still hate each other but oh well haha"
Friend says "Good, at least u got one back"
DS replied "oh well I couldn't care less anyway its always been my dad who was there for me out of them"
I am absolutely gutted, floored and really upset. I could understand the first message if we still weren't getting on but we have been getting on great.
And the second message makes me think I must have really fucked up this parenting lark. It is true that DS1 (13) spends more time with DH and DS2 (10) spends more time with me generally, but it is always me that DS1 comes to if he's upset, needs a cuddle, who calms him down etc.
I know teenagers do slag off parents but I am gutted and don't know what to do. He knows the deal is that we can read his messages and we need to learn to trust him again (he was experimenting with weed a few times over the holidays), but I don't necessarily want to confess to seeing this one.
Any ideas?? Any thoughts, Anything???
I have to go to a client now unfortunately as I am really not in the mood but will check in again at lunchtime.
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DS13 told friend we hate each other and i'd never been there for him - gutted
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Boysandme · 10/09/2014 09:21
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