Hi guys (However I'm presuming mostly girls)
I'm a 17 year old guy and have been looking on their forum for a while to see if the way my parents act is in anyway normal/acceptable. Don't worry I'm not like that other 17year old that was on here a couple of weeks or so back.
A short backround. I've just started 2nd year A2 predicted good grades and want to get into a Russel group uni to do engineering, I count myself as rather sensible, yes I do some silly things however I would say I'm more sensible/responsible than most. My parents though are very protective over certain things, eg they don't like me going out to meet people unless they know who and where the whole time (don't even think about staying/going out late.), they also have been long time anti games such as GTA and they will not allow it in the house until I can buy it age 18, as a last example my dad will come in to the spare room (where I have a tv/laptop ect) at 10:40 and tell me I need to go to bed now as its getting late. He particularly treats my like a 13/14 year old. For another example I leave semi dirty clothes over a chair in my room so I can wear them another day, however my dad has a complete hissy fit unless they are hung up on a hanger over the wardobe door, it makes no real difference however he enforces this very strictly.
All of this would be bearable by itself, you are thinking. yes their are overprotective however at least they are "Nice". But to add to this.
However I will now give you a run down of this evening. I was sat in my 14(Nearly 15) year old brothers room at (9:15 watching the end of evan almighty with him), my dad starts shouting upstairs saying my brother needs to start getting ready for bed. I point out CALMLY (I make sure I'm calm to make a point as you will see why in a minute.) to him that considering my brother will sleep in tommorow he could stay up longer. My dad storms upstairs tells me to get out and for my brother to get to bed. My brother then repeats my point, my dad then responds by telling him he will block his internet until the next morning. At this point I go downstairs and get some food. I get back to my laptop and find my internet blocked, I go and tell/ask my dad to unblock it and he tells me that he is too busy watching x factor (apart from the fact he was very happy to get up from it a minute a go to shout at my brother.), I ask him to unblock my internet again. My dad then stands up gets right into my face shouting (full on spitting in face shouting) at my on how he is watching tv, he will not unblock my internet, how it is his internet, he pays for his house and how I need to stop laying the law down (refering to my question my brothers bedtime.). I reply calmly saying that he wonders why I can't wait to go to university next year, he replys saying that he doesn't care what I think.
(He thinks he can work the internet router and I have found a way around his blocking, of the internet, its inconvenient but it works, if you are wondering how I'm posting this.)
This incident isn't a one off either (incidents similar to the above probably happen once every could of weeks.) my dad is controlling over everyone in the family (Notice my mother never spoke up in the above incident even though she full on agrees with my point of view.), he was arrested for pushing/throwing my brother against a wall, he threw a knife across a hotel room which cut open my brothers lip and regularly he will just storm off if even the smallest thing that upsets him is said. He is "nice" most of the time however has serious anger management problems that he will not admit. (I used to have anger problems like him however school helped my with that in years7-8).
I honestly don't know what to do, he won't admit any fault if you try and speak to him (and he normally turns that into a shouting rant on his part), or do I just try and put up with him for another year, concentrate on my studies and then enjoy life without their controlling?? any advice/tips/experience on how to deal with this.
Hope the above makes sense, I'm good at physics but not at essay writing, hahaha. I've probably missed out stuff and added in more about some stuff that I should but hey, I kinda needed to get it off my chest.
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lukebsf1 · 28/09/2013 22:39
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