I've posted previously about my 17 yr old dd who is very difficult a lot of time - verbally aggressive, disrespectful lazy etc etc. last week she stormed out cos I was ' pissing her off cos you always go on and on'- told her NOT to keep nicking her sister's clothes and asked what she was doing about a job since she has dropped out of college
Anyway she has stayed away all week and although I knew where she was I did wonder when she would come and obviously have been worried.
She's been rude and disrespectful whenever I've spoken to get during the week so no change there!
She is coming home tomorrow apparently and wants a lift. Do I pick her up or say no sorry you chose to leave find your own way home? I really want her home but on the other don't want her to feel she can just bugger off for a week and then say come get me when she wants to come home!
Has she asked nicely? If so, it's a chance for a fresh start. I understand the temptation to refuse, and would prob be tempted myself... But that will throw you straight back into the same old conflicts, and it would be good to do things more positively if possible, wouldn't it?