My stepson is driving me and my husband mad. (He is 15, We have a good relationship, tell him we love him, he tells us the same, he has high functioning autism, he has always lived with us, he has a bad mother that abandoned him at a young age, he has counselling for this just to give a bit of background info, but I really don't think much of that is a prime factor in this situation)
He is being so aggravating and I can feel things starting to spiral and we are at our witts end. It started with him getting angry and punching a kid at school, so he had his boundaries restricted ( coming home straight from school not going to friends at weekends) then we slowly relaxed it, but every time we give him an inch he takes a mile. we let him go to his gf's for dinner, he had to be back at 9, he turns his phone off, doesn't come back till 11, have a huge talk with him in which he strops and comes up with silly excuses (I didn't realise it was that late, my phone was in my bag etc etc) so we restrict again then let him go to his friends after school and tell him he has to come home for dinner, he again doesn't turn up, he again starts with the whole why are we being unfair etc and sulking. He won't accept that what he has done is wrong, ever.
He just wont accept that if he behaved himself then we would allow him to do more of the things he wants but if he cant follow simple instructions then he wont be allowed to do what he wants. If he doesn't follow the rules he wont get a reward.
But every-time we give him an inch again, an opportunity to prove that he has learnt, he takes the mick and is rude again. I talk to him and all I get is the 'its not fair, your treating my like a 6 year old moan).
What is the answer? just keep taking more privileges away until he behaves? it seems endless.
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Symphony2012 · 16/07/2013 19:36
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