Hi this is the first time I have posted here although I have been reading a load of relevant threads here about similar problems. My 14 year old daughter is in a very bad way and it's making the rest of the family ill. She has complained of stomach aches for over 2 years and has had every test going including an ultra sound which has revealed nothing. She has missed alot of school because of this. Last October she left herself signed in on facebook and I found to my horror that she had been sending explicit photos of herself to boys. Some of which she didn't even know. I ended up getting the police involved. We talked and talked and discovered how much she hated herself and thought she was ugly. We thought that we had moved forward. I banned her face book account and took away her phone. She got her phone back a couple of months ago but I still kept up the ban on face book. After she had lied to me about being at a friends house I took her phone back and just happened to check her messages and photos only to discover she was doing it again. I was so angry after all we had already been through and we argued. I called her a slut which i regretted straight away. I went later to her bedroom to talk and I apologised. She said there was no need to apologise because she thought she was a slut and then told me that she had been having thoughts of suicide and wanted to throw herself in front of a car. She said she hadn't slept for months. I was so frightened I didn't know what to do and spoke to my husband. later that evening i found some empty packets of her stomach medication on the floor of her room and asked if she had taken them. She swore to me she hadn't. However the next day she admitted to a family friend that she had taken 32 of the tablets. We rushed her to A and E and she was kept in over night. the next day camhs spoke to her and arranged some more appointments. She also decided that she wanted to talk to a family friend. Things were going ok even though she was telling me she was still having suicidal thoughts and thought life was pointless. Then on Sunday night she complained of her usual stomach ache. My husband and I had noticed that it was always worse on a Sunday before school and pointed this out to her that maybe the anxiety was causing this. She took this to mean that we thought she was lying about the pain which we don't and it ended up in an argument with her Dad. She told us she hated us and didn't want to speak to us any more. Later that evening at one in the morning I heard her go downstairs. I followed her down to discover she had started drinking alcohol. She told me if I hadn't come down she would have drank until it killed her. the police ended up at the house in the early hours and spoke top her. She seemed to respond, she admitted that there was a boy at school who was bothering her with nasty comments and she agreed for the police to make the school aware of this. She didn't want to go to school the next day but i made her go. When she arrived back she was happy and said she had a good day. rather than be relieved I felt angry that she had put us all through that the night before and was now so happy as if nothing happened. Later that evening she was low again and told me that she feels no love for anyone or anything and thinks life is pointless. I have phoned camhs today for advice and they are looking to possibly medicate her. I'm so scared and this is making the whole family ill. I can't see an end to this and my moods are completely controlled by her at the moment. Any advice will be gratefully received.
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