can`t keep coping

[flupi]

This has gone on for too long, I dont want to keep feeling so distraught. When friends/relatives come to my house they make comments on how rude my 17 yr old dd is, and the thing is, Im so used to it I dont even notice. She was at college doing A levels but has dropped out until supposedly next september. meanwhile got a job in a shop, but today, for the second time, just didnt go in. When I got back from work myself and realised, I was upset and said that she should have gone in even if she felt tired, because thats the right thing to do. She waltzed off with an opened bottle of red wine to some friends and proceeded to text me how awful and unsupportive I am. One of her friends attempted suicide in our bathroom last week, blood everywhere, ambulance crew took over an hour to prise her away to hospital. Another friend we found out that evening has been trying to get them to take drugs. Its just awful... I know you cant predict the way your children go but its not what I had in mind. I dont want to be a parent that has failed so miserably. Can anyone relate to that? I don`t know a single other soul whose children are like this.

[HeySoulSister]

How long has she been like this? I have teens too so I sympathise. But hey, you aren't alone!!

[flupi]

Shes been like this for about 1 and a half years. Before that she had lots of hobbies, good friends, did ok in her gcses. Also has bulimia.

[nickstmoritz]

oh what a nightmare flupi. Poor you. I am sure you have tried the quiet chat but would she consider getting some professional help? After all having a friend do that and struggling with her eating might suggest she (and you) need some help and support right now. Could you talk to your GP? Has your DD got another adult she could talk to? I would probably ask my sister or brother to help and talk to my DD if I faced something like this.

[flow4]

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