I am new today, so I am sorry if this has been covered somewhere already.
My daughter has always been such a lovely girl, a real delight. However when she started secondary school, she started to be bullied. She then got in with the wrong crowd and started smoking. Then she got her first "boyfriend", who was 2/3 years older than her and forced her to perform a sexual act upon him at school and then told everyone about it. She started to self harm, I am lucky that she told me about it afterwards, I think if she hadn't she would have killed herself. This all happened over a year ago and she is now mixing with a much nicer girl, doesn't smoke, stays away from boys. All good, well no she is still being bullied, in fact much worse now because everyone knows what happened to her. She only self harms very occasionally. There days that I am scared to walk into her room in case I find she has killed herself, because of the bullying. She feels very insecure and thinks everyone hates her, when in fact I am sure they don't. I try to help her to be more positive and she is generally a lot more positive.
I feel very guilty as I feel I took my eye off the ball, as we were going through our own personal hell, losing our house, bankruptcy and my husband was severely depressed and contemplating suicide. Obviously this had a huge impact on my daughter, even though I tried to hide it as much as it was possible.
I don't know where to go for help, she did see the school counsellor for a while, but she didn't feel that it was helping. I would like her to see herself for the beautiful, caring, wonderful girl that she is.
Sorry that this is very long. I am just hoping that there is someone out there that has been there and been able to help their child and be able to guide down the right path.
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Bluberrypie · 29/01/2013 10:50
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