My son is 19 and shows all the signs of having borderline personality disorder. What I am asking is how do we deal with that as his family, I have already tried to set boundaries with money lending and the way he talks to us all and his manipulating ways so that is a start but these boundaries are just causing him to cut himself more and isolate himself in his room. I want to be there for him but part of me is so very angry at him as I cannot see why he would have anything to be so sad about, but he is so very sad and doesn't know how to cope with his sad and angry feelings apart from self harming. He drinks, takes drugs and punches himself and he has started to cut himself too. He comes across as a spoilt attention seeking little boy and that is what is so hard to get over especially for his dad and sister who don't seem to have the level of empathy I have. I want to be able to step back and let him sort his problems out for himself when he is ready but as a mother I feel I should be able to make my children feel better at the drop of a hat, and I really can't do that, nothing I say or do seems to help him. What do I do and how do I switch off from his behaviour a little so I don't feel like I am going to burst with sadness and fear that every time I get a phone call it will be someone telling me he has done something drastic.
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What is the best way to deal with my mentally ill son.
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lulu6867 · 18/09/2012 19:26
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