Apologies for the long post...
DD is 16, just left school has a circle of friends, it's just one in particular there is a problem with.
They are mostly going to new 6th forms except unfortunately this 'friend' will also be at the same school.
Problems started a few months ago, this has problems at home wherby she relies upon her friends emotionally and is insistent that they must never grow apart, they have had to organise to see each other in the hols as they must not lose this closeness. My DD is finding this claustophobic and wants out, she seems to be afraid of this girl and says she has to 'keep her sweet' for the next 2 years until after 6th form as if she doesn't she'll spread horrid talk about her and make her life a misery is she doesn't retain this level of friendship. For example DD says she 'has' to text her daily to see how she is and keep on the right side of her, that she is the one who all her friends listen to and what she says goes and if she falls out with her no one will take her side. This friend also said that she and my DD they weren't as close and that she didn't like it, I just thought tough!
A while ago my DD had a BF and she was terrified of telling her, she treats her bad, puts her down in front of others whenever she can and last weekend DD had a party and she openly slagged her off and no one backed DD up.
It's come to a stage where she is even afraid to say that she won't be getting the bus with her next year but getting a lift with me as it will upset her, when we talked about this my DD was physically sick and shaking, she's so afraid of her, like she has a hold over her. I can't understand it, she's normally so confident.
Now you and me would probably just tell her to go away but DD say's it's not that easy, I am really concerned and have told her that she'll make new friends at 6th form who will make their own minds up never mind if she were to say bad things (quite what I don't know).
Anyone experienced this destructive type of relationship?
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Serendipity129 · 11/07/2012 16:09
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