Hi everyone! I really just need to unload I think. I have been crying non stop for the past two hours and now can't face going to work. I just feel that my relationship with my dd is falling apart and I don't know how to stop it. My girl is nearly 16 and is strong willed but isn't really any trouble. We have become very close and I loved spending time with her going shopping or to cinema or to see a show. She has a bf who is older Than her and although I had reservations about this, I encouraged her to be open and honest about there relationship. I take her and pick her up from his house which is 20 miles in total up and down the road, and I do this at 3-4 times a wk, I encourage Him to come here as often as he wants, I buy them tickets fir gigs, organise days out, and also let her have sleepovers with her friends. I get on with her friends, and I have no problems with groups of friends coming here and often invite them on holidays or for days out. I have just paid £400 for her to go on holiday with her cousin. I support and encourage her in everything she does, whether it be dancing or guitar lessons. I am always there for her if she needs to talk, and when she recently broke up with her bf for a few days, I took time off work as she was so upset. Basically, she has everything she wants and I really don't know how to be a better mom. Lately, tho it is like she begrudged every word she has to speak to me. I have just driven to her bfs at 10 30 at night. I haven't seen her at all today, so was looking forward to hearing about her day. Every question was tho as usual met with one or two word answers and if I didn't speak neither did she. This has become a pattern. If I try to soak to her about how rude she is being, she just turns it round and says it's my fault for asking stupid questions and that I have put her in a bad mood. I then get very hurt and can't see why I would want to keep putting myself out for someone so ignorant, she goes to her room and I sit and cry! I am menopausal so guess am over sensitive. I know the answer is to leave her alone and that this is part of growing up, but I just want my lovely girl back! Sorry just needed to get this out and also to reassure myself that I am not going completely mad. :) now I gave read this back it seems too stupid for words that I should be so upset - but I am and I don't know how to stop it. Have i lost all sense?
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