I am normally a down to earth mum who due to past experiences is fairly relaxed, I don't sweat the small stuff.
DD has a friend, not from her school, but who she knows from a gymnastics club. DD told me the other day that this friend (year 9) had sex with her boyfriend who she had been with for 2 months, DD was shocked.
My DD hasn't started her periods, has never done anything more than texted boys she met at school discos and gone to town twice on 'dates'. Shes had one boyfriend who lasted three weeks. My DD is very little girl-ish still and to imagine her doing anything other than kiss a boy is impossible for me! DDs friend is similarly 'little' and under developed but allowed a lot my DD hasn't experienced like alcohol, parties and mixed sleepovers and is at a mixed school wheras my DD is at an all girls school.
Maybe I need to open my eyes to reality but I also am now concerned, DD has been invited to a party at this girls house. She doesn't know any of the other people there expect one other girl from gym.
I don't want to let her go, just because I worry she wouln't know how to cope, she is so naive but also trust her and feel she needs to learn how to deal with such situations. I'm more worried she will feel behind as she hasn't experienced this teen culture, and her school friends more do all-girl sleepovers, trips out for dinner or pamper parties... very different world!
DD is the youngest of my 4 children, the 3 older (oldest much older- now finished uni) all were allowed to go to parties, drink, 2 had boyfriends at 16 but all knew I expected them to be responsible and to know their limit- and as far as I know they did (most of the time! Few times they certainly learnt from their mistakes). Big difference is they all started this parties etc from about year 11, when they were at least nearly 16.
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Happymum22 · 29/03/2012 16:48
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