DS too first year at University. Loan came in late so we sent him occasional sums - added up to several hundred, money we struggled to find. (Modest incomes, insecure jobs).
Loan came in and he didn't do the first thing that he should have done which was to re-instate the DD he had with the Uni to pay his accommodation. Now, it's the end of term, nearly, and he hasn't paid the Uni a penny. Being cagey about how much he has, though admitting he went on the odd spending spree. Expensive jeans, football boots (claimed new ones we'd bought him in Sept got lost) etc etc. His Uni card takes care of his meals but still he says he spent a lot on food. So, so far, nothing has been paid to Accomm and we've told them that clearly we'll have to pay the balance once he's made a card payment for this term.
We can't afford the full fee -
So a) what to do about this - DS will be chucked out if payment isn't made;
b) he's home next week - are there services out there that talk to young people, robustly, about budgeting
c) Private landlord for accomm next academic year (can't stay in halls then) wants cash deposit - DS doesn't have the money and would we pay cash? I don't think so!
d) no sign of DS wanting job over Xmas - doesn't have his foot in any doors as he's only worked for a few days and that place isn't looking for staff.
Love him, longing to see him but so worried about his attitude to money and our ability to pick up the taps, again.
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WelshCerys · 11/12/2011 09:47
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