What if one needs more spent on them than another? I found it easy when they were smaller - we tried to give each a fair number of the opportunities that came up regardless of fairness in the costs. But now they are teens they also need to realise the value of money. Is it part of my job as a parent to make it clear that life is not fair and you get out what you put in - even from mum and dad?
Current dilemma - and would love to hear how anyone sorted their similar ones out.
DD1 is at university. Works very hard academically, always been careful with her money and things. She has her loan and an allowance that should mean she doesnt have to work while studying but isn't flush.This year she cannot come on family holiday with us at half term as at university. She certainly cannot afford to go by herself even if she works over xmas which she is trying to set up.
DD2 is at home (year 13) . Works but not hard, very good socially. She'd really like to have left us behind if at all possible by now: friends and bed are most important. Has a part -time job and lots of babysitting so has money to go to clubs get 3 am taxis home at the weekend, buy loads of clothes etc. We fund driving lessons (just passed), petrol, phone, allowance and of course family holidays. She is careless with possessions, and has just lost her phone and ipod while out clubbing. She also wants to invite a friend on family holiday as DD1 not going.
I look at them and wonder why I am funding the daughter who loses stuff and spends it on drink, and not the one who knows the value of money and works hard. I am wondering whether to tell DD2 that we will replace her phone but with cheap model - cue bad mood or her spending even more time earning money rather than college work. Or tell DD1 that I'll give her some extra for her hols.
Any ideas?
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how do you balance spending on siblings?
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Casxy · 15/11/2011 13:29
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