Arggghh, teenage girls!

[Freakyfroggie]

Year 11 and they are still falling out and bitching, someone tell me there is a point where it all becomes friendly and mature.....please!

[notnowImreading]

February- Easter of year 11. Like clockwork.

[whoopeecushion]

er, no, women are still like this in our school playground (the mothers I mean!)

[ssd]

my mum tells me they all moan about each other in her womans group in sheltered housing

sorry op, buy some earplugs!

[Freakyfroggie]

Notnow, really February? Not long to wait then! Is it wrong of me to wish the next few months of my dd life away?

[notnowImreading]

The approach of the prom seems to help.

[Freakyfroggie]

My dd tries not to get involved but she surrounds herself with a group of girls that constantly fall out, bitch and make up. It's a never ending cycle. Hoping that going separate ways and 6th form will do the trick. Give me a screaming toddler over this bunch any day!

[startail]

We got hugely better End Y9 and y10 because we wanted to do well in our exams.
First two years of secondary I got pushed about I minute and made to listen too X moaning about Y, Y moaning about X, Z moaning about X and Y and everyone, especially myself moaning about Z.
( Z has not improved) the others are lovely.

[figroll]

Girls will be girls unfortunately. I have found a lot of mothers incredibly bitchy in various activities that my kids have taken part in over the years. My dd1 has found the girls she lived with at uni so bitchy that she moved out. I don't think it ever ends, you just learn to ignore them.

[Freakyfroggie]

Figroll, am really hoping they either grow up or go their separate ways at the end of year 11 if that's the case! They can be so hurtful, as long as they are alright and in favour they don't care who they hurt along the way. Just glad dd has a very different view on how to treat others.

[timidviper]

Agree with figrolls. Sadly some women don't grow out of the "Queen Bee and Wannabee" stuff. My DD is at uni and still comes across it, as do I with some supposed adults. The best you can do is teach your DD coping strategies at as early an age as possible.

[Freakyfroggie]

Thanks timidviper, I guess I was just hoping they would all eventually realise what they were doing was hurting others but maybe telling her she will always come across girls like this and how to deal with it is a better way to go. At least she is kind hearted and thoughtful so hopefully won't end up like them!

[froggies]

Teenage girls can be awful to each other. I was a form tutor in an all girls school and Head of Year for a while too. From what I have seen, most of them seem have a period when friendship groups get a bit rocky for various reasons... One gets a boyfriend, the others get fed up.... Only one doesn't have a boy friend, feels left out... Another friend comes into the group or one leaves.... Smething happens to one of them elsewhere in their life... All of these things rock them. The vast majority seem to settle down and learn how to deal with changes to their friendships by the time they are staring exams in the face. But a few never seem to manage it, at least not by the time they leave y13, and still have issues of fall outs, bitchyness etc in whatever friendship group happen to be in, they seem to bring out the worst in everyone else around them. Perhaps these individuals stay like that and are the ones that are involved in bitchyness a uni and playground? It is a theory I guess.