My DD is 15 and I'm worried that she's not eating enough. In fact, I know she's not. I don't really know how to begin this thread, so I'll start with a bit of background. She used to be really chubby, some would say fat. She was teased/bullied over this in years 5 and 6. Not long after starting secondary school she changed her eating habits - cutting out sweets, crisps, 'junk' etc. She wasn't exercising at this time, except for games at school, but no additional excercise. Anyway, she lost a lot of weight, her body shape completely changed. It was okay and gave me no cause for concern. However in the last year or so she's become obssessed with what she has/hasn't eaten, how many calories/sat fats are in foods etc. She constantly complains about her body/shape "huge" stomach etc.
I've tried to gently coax her to eat more and we've varied between gentle coaxing from me and arguing about it, which, I know, is counter-productive. Whenever I touch on her eating habits she gets very defensive and jumps down my throat.
Today's food intake is a typical example. Breakfast: Sugar free museli (she will have the smallest bowl possible.) She may have had a piece of fruit too. Lunch: A Go-Ahead bar and some fruit salad. Farley's Rusk when she got in from school (for some reason she likes them.) Her boyfriend is here this evening and I've done him and DS's pizza and chips for tea but DD refused to join them in that and insisted on a small bowl of Leek and Potato soup. I think she had a small roll with that. She more than likely won't eat anything else this evening.
I know a lot of people will say not to confront her all the time and don't push her into a corner, makes the problem worse, and I agree as I know from experience because I've suffered from an eating disorder myself but am fine now. Obviously she witnessed it when I was at my worst though so in a way I'm not surprised this is happening and naturally feel completely responsible and guilty.
She's about 5 foot tall and weighs around 7 stone, possibly less now, if I asked her it would either be another row or I wouldn't get the truth.
I know it's quite common for teenage girls to go through this but I'm really worried. She was quite bad a few months ago, then seemed to relax it all, put a little bit of weight on, looked so much better but now has gone all the other way again. My Mum is constantly on my case about it and my Sister commented recently "you only have to look at her to see she's not eating properly."
Sorry this has ended up being quite long. Any thoughts? Anyone in same/similar situation?
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Worried about 15 yo DD eating (or rather lack of it)
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MummyPenguin · 07/09/2011 18:47
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