What to wear -scattering ashes ceremony.

[BigginsforPope]

I am not sure whether to wear all black or something with a bit of colour or less smart.

My dm died in July and we held a funeral for which I wore smart black dress, heels etc. This is a much more informal family gathering to bury the ashes under a cherry tree. It is in the cemetary though and afterwards we are going for a family meal. I don't want us to look like a funeral party having a pub meal.

Can I wear colour? I've got a soft brown dress with brown knee high boots. Or a black cord knee length skirt, blouse and coloured tights with black boots.

I can well imagine my dm rolling her eyes at me if I turned up in jeans though . . .

[taybert]

I think either of your suggestions sound about right. I'd say the sort of thing you'd wear out for Sunday lunch - so a bit smarter than jeans but not full on formal. Have you asked anyone else who is going what they are thinking of wearing?

Sorry for your loss.

[taybert]

Lots of people don't wear black for funerals now so I think colour would be fine.

[BigginsforPope]

The only other people going are my brothers, my aunt (who only ever wears black anyway) and my mum's husband. I am not even sure if sil is going as it depends on her getting childcare.

I think the Sunday lunch idea sounds about right