Please dress me for a not-date

[thesaurusgirl]

A few people on here know me IRL so I'm saying no more .

I'm a size 12, 5'4", mid thirties.

I want to look younger and cooler and hotter. Help please

[thesaurusgirl]

Bump. Seeing this man tomorrow, please tell me what to wear! Christmas drinks party. Think Mark Darcy.

[RojaGato]

When I met my husband I was 34, 5'4" size 12 (5 years ago), so why don't I tell you what I wore the first few times we met:

Met for first time ( at local chamber of commerce event)
Black shift dress, lacy knit shawl in lieu of cardigan (in was snowing), black knee high boots with kitten heel, cross body bag made of recycled ring pulls

First non-date total pretext of my doing work meeting
Navy shift dress with navy ballet wrap cardigan, grey flat over the knee suede boots

Second non-date another total pretext of his doing lunch
Big grey Tweed overcoat, big russian fake fur hat, same lbd as original meeting underneath with grey flat over the knee suede boots this time

First proper date
Grey marl merino sweater with 3/4 sleeves and boat neck, slouchy a-line mini in grey raw silk with a silver, grey and gold jackson pollock style splashy print on it, grey boots again

So I would say
*you need to feel relaxed and yourself
*something classically feminine works
*have one sexy feature on display (legs or bum or cleavage, not all three and probably not cleavage at this point- but something tight-ish that defines the outline of your bust, definitely)
*display a feminine silhouette in whatever you choose but not too much skin (e.g. shift dress or skinny jeans or mid-thigh mini skirt- whichever is more your style, but make sure you define your waist)
*heels never hurt, don't have to be skyscrapers though
*long boots are good too, but flat-ish if they are over the knee
*nice perfume, not too much make up

Don't try to monopolise him, but when you are speaking to him, turn on the charm full beam.

BTW, I was totally skint at the time, as I had just paid for my mum's funeral so I was in a mix of hand me downs from friends, charity shop finds and sale bargains most of time. I was dressing much less trendily/cooly than I usually did as a result. Think this made me more approachable. My point being, as long as you don't look like a scarecrow and present a silhouette that makes him realise you are of the opposite sex to him, if it's meant to be, and the chemistry is there, it will happen.

Good luck.

[Redtartanshoes]

Pretty tea dress black tights shoe boot leather/denim jacket

[SunshineAndShadows]

Skinny jeans, boots, awesome top

[MakeMeWarmThisWinter]

What do you normally like to wear? Is there any kind of dress code / expectation of the kind of thing?

How about a Christmas jumper?

[thesaurusgirl]

Thanks everyone, especially Roja!

I wear conservative business casual most of the time and Sweaty Betty the rest so had really no idea what to wear.

Christmas jumpers don't flatter my extensive boobage, and a dress would have been a bit too much.

Anyway, I wore a cashmere jumper, black culottes, black heels, and accessorised with a clutch and chandelier earrings. Very normcore but that's me.

Now let's wait and see whether we meet up between Christmas and New Year as planned...