Is it best to "surprise" DH and come home with short hair?

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Watfordsue Mon 04-Feb-13 14:07:50

Hi Girls, I am in a dilema about what to do about cutting my hair. Like most men DH likes it long but I am so desperate to cut it I am scared he will talk me out of it. I am very petite and I always had Pixie cuts till I was about 19 and then grew it as boys liked long hair. Since having DS1 six years ago I started wearing it simply all scraped back in a band permanently off my face, This was great and easy especially when DS2 and DD1 came along! When we manage to get out together I try to make the effort with the heated rollers and wear it loose and curly, DH thinks its sexy. When DD was two last year I felt I needed a job as after spending years with babies I was short of adult conversation and when DH came home it was always baby talk. I managed to get a perfect Part Time job in a local cafe, I absolutely LOVE it, I have gained confidence, got my slim figure back, I feel I am contributing to the family and most importantly I feel so much better about myself. The only problem with working in a cafe is the smell........I come home and stink of food all over me. I tend to shower every morning and again quickly when I get home but the problem is that I just don't have the time to wash my hair daily after work and it stinks of fried food all the time. Even though its scraped back I can smell it round my face and my bedding and pillows stink also. I feel going back to a simple Pixie cut would be perfect, 30 seconds blowing and I will feel great, the problem is DH, if I mention that I would like to cut my hair short, he will probably say how much he likes me long and I will feel guilty cutting it, the other option is to just have it done after work, he then comes home to a sassy new wife and I just surprise him. My friends are undecided on what is best to do, they also have husbands who like long hair! My Mum who went through the same thing with my Dad said it was 10 years before she finally cut hers, I can't put up with this that long. Mum came out with a good line and said, " You are nearly 30, a big mortgage and 3 kids, what can he do!!"

I would appreciate advice on what to do.......

I have posted this on two boards as I am unsure which is best.

Thanks

Trills Fri 08-Feb-13 11:41:04

He won't "come home to a sassy new wife"

He will come home to the same wife, with the same level of sassiness, as he always had, but with a different haircut.

Enjoy your spa day and your haircut - make sure that you get the cut that you want. I would normally recommend going to see the hairdresser and talk before you agree to let them cut your hair in a drastic way, but if you are clear enough about what you want ("pixie cut" is too vague on its own) I'm sure it'll be great.

seeker Fri 08-Feb-13 14:53:27

I keep coming back to this thread to depress myself further. I have forgotten the use of the word "sassy"- thank you soooooo much for reminding me. Not.

<seeker shambles away, a broken woman>

KristinaM Fri 08-Feb-13 16:57:35

I blame johnnie Boden

PickledInAPearTree Fri 08-Feb-13 19:07:30

Waaaaaa! This thread is hilarious.

I only read it to see why it broke seeker.

Now I see. grin

ledkr Fri 08-Feb-13 19:14:50

It's shocking isn't it? I particularly like "boys like long hair" do they indeed?

PickledInAPearTree Fri 08-Feb-13 19:21:31

My favourite was get a new job! Waaaaa!

ledkr Fri 08-Feb-13 19:24:38

Oh yes if course. Far easier.than washing your sodding hair eh?

PickledInAPearTree Fri 08-Feb-13 19:36:15

I would quite like my hair to smell like bacon n egg! grin

ledkr Fri 08-Feb-13 19:47:20

Yeah make a nice change from fags and beer ha ha

Heifer Fri 08-Feb-13 20:18:42

Lol at a visual relationship.
I sometimes look like a sack of sh*t but am pretty sure DH still loves me. I can't imagine him saying "no sorry I can't possible shag you with short hair"!!

ledkr Fri 08-Feb-13 20:53:47

My dh would just be glad of a shag to be honest!
IM FUCKING TIRED alright <tuts>

Fanjounchained Sat 09-Feb-13 08:53:23

grin ledkr !

Eliza22 Mon 11-Feb-13 09:27:38

OP, is it done? smile

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