hypothetically, what do 42-year-old brides with two children wear?

(46 Posts)
curryeater Fri 11-Jan-13 15:54:45

If:
they are getting married in church
Are short, have stocky legs, red hair, no tan or any likelihood of same, size 12 below 14 on top

Just wondering...

KatyS36 Sat 12-Jan-13 14:36:36

Just an idea, but if you know what sort of dress you want how about putting a post on your local freecycle asking for one?

I'm suggesting this as I don't want to keep my dress, but I want it to go to a home where its loved, and if I heard of someone like you you could have it! (unfortunatly it is white!)

Definatly suggest going into bridal shops. I went into about eight to try things and they weren't pushy. They know if you are going to buy new you will want to shop around, and they won't know you aren't.

Good luck and enjoy.

Katy

A simply decorated cake like this would be lovely using the M&S cake. All you would need is some wide ribbon in your chosen colour. The big broochy thing you can get from eBay like here

ISeeSmallPeople Sat 12-Jan-13 19:45:00

Church wedding & church hall with guests bringing food would be lovely. Usually church hall hire is £30 max.
If you are into that, go all vintage. Make your own bunting ( pinking shears & stapler! ), have mismatched crockery either your own, from a charity shop or get guests to bring their own. Bring a dish & a bottle each. One teenage cousin can dj & will have his own decks smile

Ps. Can I come? I have my own pinking shears & am pretty handy with a stapler...as artistic as I get!

Mewsical Sat 12-Jan-13 20:04:44

Hiring a church hall is a minimum £150 around here.

I had a Monsoon dress and only relatives attend a registry office wedding, though looked around for a nice one. Then we went for drinks and then a to a really great restaurant for a long lunch.
No wedding cake, just desserts as I was too late to order an M&S one.

LaTrucha Sat 12-Jan-13 21:12:50

It's around £25-£30 for church hall hire here. A friend of ours did it and the wedding presents were the food. One couple bought trifle, one bought bread, one bought potato salad. Parents bought drink. It was great. I am never bloody making tortilla de patata for 70 again though grin

Taffeta Sat 12-Jan-13 21:17:54

My BF got married at 40 with 2 kids and wore a white trouser suit. Bootcur white trousers, white jacket, floppy hat. Kind of like this
She looked FAB.

curryeater Sat 12-Jan-13 21:23:00

Oh you are all so inspiring!
Taffeta, that floppy trousers and heels look is exactly what I had in mind - wider than bootcut, more dressy. I am not sure if this is a good look if you are 5'4" though, it is really really elegant on tall slim women.
I love that cake with the black ribbons.
I bet I could hit up my folks for some booze.

Taffeta Sat 12-Jan-13 21:29:44

My mate is a size 12 with cankles, 5 ft 6.

Taffeta Sat 12-Jan-13 21:31:05

And you too can be 5ft 6 with those heels! grin

http://www.berketexbride.com/wedding-dresses/deborah

I wore this.

Am very pale and a bit bigger than you.

Do you want a borrow?

curryeater Sat 12-Jan-13 22:31:49

Liza, that is so kind! I really like your dress, the simplicity is so elegant. I won't say yes as I don't have a date, so don't know when I could return it, and would prefer something I could alter if necessary. but thank you so much that is very very kind of you, I do luffs mn xxx

lalalonglegs Sat 12-Jan-13 22:41:40

Something vintage like this would look stunning with a larger bust and red hair (don't let the size put you off, you can have it altered and I suspect it is an "old" which comes up a lot smaller). A really simple posy with it, some pale shoes and red lippy.

Schooldidi Sat 12-Jan-13 22:53:43

I've just been invited to a wedding where they are getting married in the church, then the reception is in the church hall (across the car park) with a 'bring and share' buffet rather than food being provided. They don't need gifts because they have lived together for years but want to be married.

The invitations also specified a colour of dress if you fancy being a bridesmaid. I'm really looking forward to it, fancy weddings are not really my thing.

ProphetOfDoom Sat 12-Jan-13 23:21:24

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ProphetOfDoom Sat 12-Jan-13 23:29:21

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mcsquigg Sun 13-Jan-13 08:35:27

No help on the dress front (apart from trying your local charity shop- one near me has gorgeous wedding dresses for very little).

One of the loveliest weddings i've been at in recent years was in the brides church and her friends from church laid on a beautiful afternoon tea in the church hall with homemade scones and shortbread and flowers, confetti etc on the tables with. They were so happy to marry each other and it was a really beautiful, happy relaxed day.

Go for it!

Mayisout Sun 13-Jan-13 09:06:56

I would go out and try stuff on.
Have just been looking for a dress for a winter wedding and must have tried on 30, most look dire. Out of the 30 one was flattering but a day dress, one was flattering but black, too evening wear rather than wedding, and one (not in the sales needless to say) was flattering. I now need to find a shrug or jacket to match.

curryeater, I loved it, it's the best dress ever. The offer is there, bear it in mind if you decide you want a 'dress'

curryeater Sun 13-Jan-13 22:04:53

Thanks so much, Lizatarbucksauntie!

OK Schmalzting, I reluctantly agree about the trouser suit. That is what I was afraid of. I think those are lovely dresses but they might be a bit too much for me - I think again the lack of height and the stockiness is a problem - I think the beading and decoration is beautiful if you come out like a 20s gazelle but would be a bit lampshade on me. Maybe not - maybe the thing, as everyone is saying, is to try things on!

thanks again everyone for all the encouragement, really appreciate it

LaTrucha Sun 13-Jan-13 22:37:24

Liza - that is such a beautiful dress. It's a pretty lovely offer too.

ProphetOfDoom Mon 14-Jan-13 00:57:26

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