Tall, slightly chunky 11 year old - where do I get her the "right" clothes??

(35 Posts)
SilverLining Thu 15-Nov-12 22:16:04

Thats it really - she's incredibly lacking in self confidence as it is, lots of friend issues at school and when I went to her wardrobe today to get her non-uniform for tomorrow she basically has nothing suitable! I could have wept for her!!!

Clearly not only do I need a fashion overhaul....

I've always thought I dress my DDs well and appropriately but this growing up thing has caused a crisis in both our confidences!

Any ideas???? Thanks!!!

queenebay Thu 15-Nov-12 22:18:21

Sainsburys have some lovely girls clothes

SilverLining Thu 15-Nov-12 22:19:36

Thanks queenebay - I liked them too but she thought they were too "babyish" and that seems to be the problem we face. She is neither one thing or another and because she is tall she needs bigger sizes so that discounts Sainsburys!!!! Thanks though!

amck5700 Thu 15-Nov-12 22:21:36

Next do a plus fit in some of their stuff but it's usually a case of trial and error.

bruffin Thu 15-Nov-12 22:21:38

What size is she.

Foosyerdoos Thu 15-Nov-12 22:23:39

Depends on her style, my dd nearly 13 likes skinny jeans / t shirt and hoody. She likes the Henry Holland tshirts in debenhams, a bit of hollister, superdry David and Goliath. New Look is popular with her as well.

SilverLining Thu 15-Nov-12 22:23:51

Thanks amck5700 - she's not that chunky! She has a bit of a tummy and is slightly concscious of it so slim fitting tops etc aren't at good look!! She's probably aged 12/13 in bottoms and 12 in the top - thanks bruffin. Just trying to gauge what are good styles to look for and try and encourage her to choose things she feels happy in ...bless her!

OwedToAutumn Thu 15-Nov-12 22:24:10

Try smaller women's clothes?

DD2 is 11 and quite a solid build. I have finally worked out flattering clothes for her, which tend to be shortish, full ish skirts, leggings and a reasonably fitted t shirt. She is usually about a size 10, and shops like topshop and H&M are reasonably trendy and not too expensive.

SilverLining Thu 15-Nov-12 22:25:21

Thanks owedtoautumn - great idea. Will check out those - think that might appeal to her too as its not the same as her little sister!!!! I feel a shopping weekend coming on.....!

amck5700 Thu 15-Nov-12 22:25:30

For young girls though Primark seems to be the place to go ( I have boys so this is based on what friends say!) You may even find that a woman's size is a good fit there though they do go up to age 13 in the kids area.

amck5700 Thu 15-Nov-12 22:26:07

I was thinking H&M too.

AuntieShirley Thu 15-Nov-12 22:26:20

My dd is 11 too. It is a really hard age for clothes I think!
She tends to wear jeans or shorts and tights with a band t-shirt (she is really into the Beatles, so she wears one of those). She likes scarves and hats too.
Sometimes she will wear a dress with leggings and a jumper or something
Her uncle had no idea what to gave her for her birthday and gave her a £20 Primark voucher which she loved. She also likes H&M and some of the stuff in this seasons Next catalogue (tartan trousers!)
She is not into labels or anything.
What does she wear already?
Can she not just wear jeans and t-shirt for mufti?

fairlytiredallthetime Thu 15-Nov-12 22:27:08

If she's a big 11 year old then she could fit in a small size adult item. H&M, Primark, New Look are all good for basics and on-trend items at a reasonable price. If the goal is to be just like everyone else, then Superdry, Jack Wills or Hollister would be good with converse or vans shoes.

AuntieShirley Thu 15-Nov-12 22:27:43

Oh - dd also loves navy wool v-neck jumpers with a cord skirt (she pinched my jumper!) Looks really good in it, better than me in the same outfit (somewhat larger!)

OwedToAutumn Thu 15-Nov-12 22:29:22

Also, try the edc range by esprit. Have a look online to see if she likes the clothes. DD1 is 13, and not quite as solid as DD2, and she wears a lot of those clothes.

SilverLining Thu 15-Nov-12 22:29:44

Foosyerdoo - just been looking at New Look - think she would definitely like that! She loves her Hollister hoodie, will check out Debenhams too. AuntieShirley - you DD sounds perfect! She loves her skinny jeans but its finding tops so will take my research with me this weekend and see how we get on! Have managed to hobble an outfit for tomorrow and she seemed happy with it so that's good enough for me!

Thanks so much everyone - glad its not just me....!

Woozley Thu 15-Nov-12 22:30:41

I used to go to Tammy Girl, was in their 158cm or age 13 stuff when aged 11 (why do I remember this). Also women's size 10 fitted me quite well. Top Shop would be quite good wouldn't it?

bruffin Thu 15-Nov-12 22:30:42

Debennhams or Tammy Girl.
Also she would still fit into Verbaudet or childrens/teen section of La Redoute

SilverLining Thu 15-Nov-12 22:32:03

Woozley - I remember being 158 cm too!!!!! Hilarious!!!!

I'm now getting slightly worried that she is going to look a damn sight better than her frumpy mother.... wink

Jakadaal Thu 15-Nov-12 22:33:31

YY to H&M - have a DD aged 10 in age 11-12 clothes as she has a tummy. She also has sensory processing issues so is very fussy about clothes (will not go near a skirt or dress and leggings a huge no no) but finally got her into some skinny chinos in H&M. Also Matalan for tops that aren't cut too slim. Sometimes I get her a size 6 in ladies at Primark. Also t shirts under shirts to hide any chunkiness or developing parts - DD very self concious of her body at the mo

Does she have something that is her 'thing' - bags, scarves, colours etc. That may be a way to help her find her own look so that she doesn't depend on what is in the shops or in fashion right now (personally can't wait for the return of bootcuts for DD as they suit her much better!)

Foosyerdoos Thu 15-Nov-12 22:34:24

Hope you both have a fun day shopping! New look have nice converse style pumps and high tops in funky patterns and colours for about 12 quid.

Foosyerdoos Thu 15-Nov-12 22:36:22

Primary have fabby big scarves in great colours, they look great with long cardi/ hoody etc.

yummumto3girls Thu 15-Nov-12 22:51:28

Non school uniform days can often turn in to a nightmare for this reason, always worry DD (11) won't fit in. Agree with others it's a really hard age to dress as they are between children's and small adult size without necessarily the shape for an adult size! We shop in a variety of places, Tammy Girl (BHS), New Look, Debenams, h&m, M & S, Super Dry, Jack Wills & Hollister for a key piece (can't afford any more). Hope she feels happy tomorrow.

Woozley Thu 15-Nov-12 22:55:16

Maybe I remember that height as it sounded so grown up. And indeed it is, 5'2" is a perfectly respectable height for a grown up!

Good to hear Tammy Girl is still going. Chelsea Girl was the other one - now River Island.

Startail Thu 15-Nov-12 23:08:09

H&M, new look 9-15, you may have to size up, Miss Selfridge go v small, but adult prices. Gap not brilliant at the moment.
Pineapple petit fitted DD1 when not much else did. Debenham's and M&S indigo, adults and children's can yield useful surprises.
Next may be it for jeans, it was for DD1-depends how chunky vs how tall.

But sadly clothes for 9-13y are awful. Manufactures want you paying adult prices as soon as possible and the choice is dire.

River Island do teen sizes some awful age inappropriate goth and lads of sculls which I loath and a few nicer things.

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