Feeling Extremely Fed Up...

[midori1999]

How on earth do people cope with ex wives? I am currently sat on my own on Christmas eve, feeling very sorry for myself, having just argued with my DH, who is 500 miles away visiting his children for Christmas.

Him visiting was my idea. The ex wife has emailed several times saying that there were very serious problems with their daughter, who is 17. She claimed DSD hated me, didn't want to come and stay here anymore, thought I was mean to her Dad because I made him do the washing (I don't make him, but we do share chores) that he only married me because DSD had told me her Dad never wanted to get married again, so I made him, that her Dad didn't love her anymore and has moved on with his life etc etc etc.

Due to the distance and work commitments, DH hasn't seen his kids for awhile,a nd since DSD was having al these problems (and more) then I thought it would be quite a big gesture on his part to visit for Christmas. My own childrne are with their Dad and I am six weeks pregnant, so over-emotional.

DH got there yesterday and has spent the day with the children, then been packed off to his XMIL's house for the night, whilst ex wife and kids have an 'early Christmas' with the ex's boyfriend. (he has to go back to his family later this evening, he is married with kids). DH also wanted to take his children to visit his Dad on 27th, but his ex has arranged to go witht he kids to see hr Aunt. So, DH isn't even spending much time with the kids. On top of which, is turns out DSD doesn't think all those things about me, or her Dad not caring. (DH had a chat with her yesterday)

I am furious really. I don't mind him seeing his children if he is actually seeing them, but I hate the fact his ex wife has made out ther is a huge drama that there isn't in order to get him down there to see the children alone. (She is always trying to do this)

Sorry, pointless thread, just need to let off steam...

[rookiemater]

I'm not a step parent so I hope you don't mind me posting.

Poor you it is a shame that you your DH isn't with you, but even though your DH isn't getting as much time with his DSD as he would have liked I'm sure that deep down she appreciates the effort that he has made to see her and that must make her feel special. Even just the chance for your DH to have that chat with DSD and understand her true feelings is important and it is very supportive of you to have made the suggestion that he went.

Hope your DH is buying you a huge present to make up.

[midori1999]

Thanks, yesterday went Ok, although not the best Christmas I have ever had!