this is gonna be long so i apologise in advance and i also apologise in advance to anyone who takes offence at my thread. i have a ss who is 7 nearly 8 and a ds who has just turned 2 and my problem is that my dp soon to be husband is making me start to hate ss coming to visit. he is convinced that i dont't love his son the way i love mine that i treat him differently etc the list could go on and on and it making me so unhappy i do love mss very much although i don't think ther can ever be the same bond as that to a child uou have carried. Inever ever treat them differently they both have to share and respect each others wishes and the amount of people who say to me that i have 2 lovely boys but my dp just doesn't beleive me. i admit i am quite strict on manners and behaviour but very relaxed on other stuff ie football in house, how many sweets etc. ss is always positive about me but still every other weekend i have to listen to how i treat ss, how i have an attitude etc. today it has reached breaking point and am seriously thinking of leaving but i love this man i asked him to go to counselling for which he is awaiting an appointment but i said that its him who treats his son differently we went today and spent £220 on one xmas present for ss he always gets evything first he has got his outfit for the wedding before us, he had all his bedroom stuff for our new house before we bought anything else and the final straw for me today after my fortnightly moan from dp was when wer looking for ss present i said i wanted to go look for an outfit for ds and was dtold ther was no rush and then when we had got it we were supposed to go to another shop to look for xmas presnt for ds and was told we go tomoro ther no rush. so i exploded and said he had no right to keep getting on at me when he was the one treating the kids differently. what do i do? i look after ss every other weekend dp works nights and all school holidays i have him 4 days out of every 7 and i feel like i being put on i really do love ss but i will admit i am staring to get resentful as he is also starting to learn to play off. i sorr i told you all it was long but please someone help cos dp gone to work with neither of us talking and me keep crying trying to find a solution
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bambam30 · 29/10/2007 17:41
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