also posted this in the relationships thread. just wondered if any step parents could help.

[shoptilidrop]

hi

bit long, so im sorry about that. Will try to keep it as short as i can.
My dad remarried a lady ( mrs x) who is 16 years his junior. he much older ( 26 years older) dh had recently died. she had two young children. she was very nice to me and my 3 other siblings. meeting us for cups of tea, phoning for a chat. just generally made an effort.
We all moved into togther. From that day things changed drastically. The day of the removal my sister and i walked 3 miles to her house to see what was going on. The phone had been cut off ( this was a while ago before any one had mobiles ) and we had been left at our house waiting. it was gone 3pm and we had been waiting all day. when we arrived she answered the door and said ' there is no room for you here' and shut the door in our faces. that set the tone for the next ten years. We have been ignore, snubbed and riducled. She was only nice once i annoucned i was getting married and would be moving out.

I moved back to the uk last summer. things have been terrible since. To the point of her whole family ignoring me. I was snubbed yesterday in a shop, i literally walked into Mrs X's Mum, i said hello and she turned and walked off. Noone of my dads real children are allowed in the house, we are not even allowed to call him when he is at home. I have spoken to my dad about this and he has said for the last 6 months that he is going to sort it once and for all. he actually hasnt done anything about it. I have said i would call mrs x and her family and have it out with them myself. I am not going to be treated like this. i am a grown woman with a child of my own ffs! he has asked me not to do this and to give him to the weekend to sort it out.
I feel sorry for my dad, he is old and should not be put in this position.
But i dont know what i can do? any advice?

[tuftyclub]

Why didnt you go up to your step grand mother and say Hello Granny in a really loud voice and give her a hug ... I would of even if it was just to piss her off.
You have to be proactive here, as I don't think you're dad will do anything now.

[shoptilidrop]

because i was so shocked i was kind of routed to the spot. i just stood there like a bloody lemon while the whole queue of people behind me watched.

[tuftyclub]

screw the lot of them, you do not need step family like that.

How is your relationship with your father?