I'm 23 and my partner is 35 with a 10 year old son. We live together and he gets his his son every weekend (aside from weekends when he is working). I get along fine with his son but its his sons mum who is the problem. She constantly changes plans and expects us to just go along with it. I drive and my partner doesn't so i always take him to pick up and drop his son off. On a few occasions we have dropped him home for 7pm rather than the usual 6pm to help out the ex due to her working but often when we do this she'll turn up 30-45 mins late and often this is when it is pouring with rain. If i didn't drive her son would be left standing outside the house getting soaked. We've also dropped him at her mothers ( at her request) for no one to be home and the mother to be at the exs home, meaning i need to stop by my own familys home to get petrol money which is inconvenient and is a bit embarrasing.
My parents have paid for me and my partner to go on holiday with them and we leave on wednesday. It is a 2 week trip and to make it up to my ss we have taken him on numerous expensive days out, booked a week all inclusive holiday next year with a water park for him, my partner is taking him to blackpool for a few days in july and we have a 6 hour drive home from the airport on the friday morning and are getting my ss on the friday night when we come back. We have done everything we can to make it up to him that we'll be away for 2 weeks. My partner has depression and i have stress and our jobs aren't going too well so we really need this break.
Tomorrow my partner fought for the day off work to take me to a hospital appointment for an invasive procedure to see if i need surgery for a medical issue i've had for a few years that has gotten out of control. I have never had anything like this and am terrified at the thought of surgery. I'll be sedated so someone must be with me and stay with me overnight. When my partner picked up his son on friday, his ex found out he wasn't working tomorrow and decided ss would be staying with us an extra night. This meant he would have to come to my appointment. This will take 3 hours and a hospital is no place for a 10 year old to be plus its private to me. My partner tried to explain to his ex that he is only off work for this appointment and can't keep his son the extra night. As usual, she had already decided we were and made the usual excuses about her working and her mum not being able to look after him (despite her having a new parter who would already be looking after her other child). I just feel like i can't win here. This appointment has been in place for months and now i've had to struggle to find someone else to take me and its really upset me because i need my partner and want him with me. She said i was a big girl and can go on my own. If i could go on my own then i would but due to sedation i'm not allowed and i shouldn't have to.
She is the one thing that puts me off a future with my partner and i've come to the end of my tether and don't know how much more of her crap i can take.
I don't want to miss out on a future with my partner but i can't put up with this forever.
Help please.
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Louise2092 · 19/06/2016 13:06
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