Help..! I am losing my mind here.. My 23yr old DSS moved in with my DH, me and our 3 DC aged 15, 9 and 5 in September last year after he split with his girlfriend. It was my suggestion as his mum had refused to have him back.
We have a second reception room which we were going to turn into an adult only zone but gave to him as a bedroom.
He has 2 DD's aged 2 & 3 who I love to bits and whom we agreed to have every weekend. This meant that my 9 year old DS has to share a bedroom with my 5 year old DS at weekends limiting his ability to have friends over for sleepovers but it has worked reasonably well.
This was supposed to be a temporary arrangement whilst he got back on his feet.
However fast forward 9 months and he's showing no signs of moving on at all.. Me and DH spend every weekend looking after DC and DGC whilst he plays on his Xbox. He works full time and pays £40 per week board (which he thinks is too much) but he eats more than £40 in food per week.
If I ask him to pick up a loaf or some milk on the way home he expects us to reimburse him and he also expects us to do his cooking as well as for his DD''s. He doesn't help around the home at all and it's starting to cause arguments between me and DH.
When he's not at work he spends all his time playing on his Xbox and if we ask him to do anything we get a mouthful of abuse.
We also found out recently from a neighbour that whilst we where on holiday he was smoking weed in the back garden which I was furious about.
I really feel that he needs man up , start behaving like a grown man and a dad and move out now. I want to give him a deadline but DH thinks I'm being harsh. WWYD?
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Thelaundrylady · 12/06/2016 20:04
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