I love my SCs. We have a positive calm relationship where I feed them, spend social time with them, resist the urge to parent them too much and nudge their Dad to get them off the sofa and go and do stuff with them (they are teens so would sofa sit all weekend if allowed to).
We all go to a few music festivals and maybe a seaside or camping weekend each year. With their Mum they have, in the last 5 years, gone every year to their house in France for the summer, been to the Far East, been to the med etc.
Our only holiday without them in 5 years have been two weekends staying with a friend in Scandinavia.
Every day trip includes them, every picnic, outing is always when they are here. My DCs do notice and comment on this but my line has always been 'we do things as a family so you wouldn't want us to do it while you were elsewhere and the same applies.' Except the SCs are older now and we see them less often as they have more of their own social commitments. Thus the days out and trips are getting less and less frequent.
So: I've booked something just for the 4 of us: DH, my DCs and me: a 4 night trip abroad in February. One of the SCs is very vocally disappointed that we'd go anywhere without them. I feel awful that they are sad but the others have said they wouldn't want to come anyway and selfishly I'm thrilled that my DCs are so happy to have some special time with us. The SCs don't like the cold so a winter holiday was never going to suit them and we'd have to buy them loads of kit, the cost of which would which would preclude any of us going.
It's not unreasonable to go away without them once is it? Logically it seems entirely fair but I'm really surprised by middle SCs reaction.
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momb · 29/09/2015 15:11
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