DH and I have been living together with his two DCs, 12 and 9.5, and my two DSs, 7 and 5, and trying to blend our families. We've had some teething problems but nothing major. One thing I am getting quite stressed about, and trying not to, are meal times and DSS's diet. DSS is definitely overweight (9.5 years and 35 kilos) and has a large appetite and liking for fatty foods. His diet is ok overall but one thing I have noticed is that DH gives both his DCs an adult sized portion, in fact, larger than adult size as my and DH's portions are usually smaller! DS will then eat all his in no time at all and ask for second, usually another substantial portion. I actually get quite annoyed as DH always serves DSS the largest portion and me and DH get v small portions so I am often hungry afterwards. DS1 also gets annoyed as DSC has eaten all of something, e.g, has finished all the breakfast cereal (2 big bowls) before DS gets to the table. My two DSs have much smaller appetites and have normal child sized portions. I have so far not said anything to DH about this (massively touchy subject!) and am not sure what I can say, if anything. When I cook, I give him a normal kid size portion but then he is still starving. DSS has all the same snacks the other kids do, e.g. if they have ice cream or biscuits, so will he, but the problem is that my DSs naturally like ice lollies (no fat) whereas DSS will have a magnum or mars ice-cream. DH does not seem to be trying to steer DSS to less fatty snacks and just lets him eat what he wants. The other day we went out for lunch and DSS sat there with a plate of fried food in front him and then smothered it in mayonnaise. DH will sometimes pick him up on table manners but not much more. No idea how to address this or if I even need to. Maybe DSS will lose weight as he grows but I just find it worrying and difficult to understand why DH doesn't do more to address it. If I am honest, I am also annoyed that DSS gets huge portions when I am starving! Annoys me too that we split food bills equally on the basis that DSCs are kids when they each eat more than I do and my two kids eat v little.
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