DSD worried about periods- any advice?

[MariaVonTrapped]

N/C for this. DSD is 10, just finished yr 5, and staying with us for 10 days. She mentioned on the first day that at the end of the school term she had started her periods- was a bit embarrassed but we had a good chat. She said her DM had packed pads, and I mentioned that as that was 3.5 weeks ago she should perhaps put a pad in her bag when we go out for a whole day trip. Now she is very very angsty about her period starting and doesn't want to sleep or go out
I have explained lots that when it does start it will be v slow, and that she may not be regular yet so could be ages. Not sure what else to do? She's also complaining of tummy ache but I think that could be psychological.
We can't get hold of DSDs DM, so not sure when she actually had the last one, and/or if she had any symptoms. Am terrified of making this situation worse! All advice appreciated!

[LIZS]

Sounds like you are doing fine. Maybe take a towel and some painkillers in your bag as a back up. She's been very brave to tell you.

[MariaVonTrapped]

Thanks LIZS - I told her I was happy she could speak to me, and she also told DP she was worried about starting in the night, and I thought was lovely that she felt she could raise it with him. Any tips to stop her being scared of it starting randomly?

[yellowdaisies]

Could you buy her some panty liners to wear when her period is due?

Poor thing - 10 is quite young, it's probably all a bit daunting for her :(

[MariaVonTrapped]

Yellow that was my first thought- the problem is a) I don't know when it's due, she can't remember when the last one was and we've heard nothing from her DM , and b) when you first start you can have huge gaps I think, so DP is worried she'll feel she has to wear them until the next one which could be months away?! Also can wearing them day and night cause any problems, or is it ok?

She is so young I was young too, and hated it, so am desperate not to project! Plus the SM thing is always there- I don't want to go against what her DM would say (but don't know because she doesn't tell us...)

[BeansInBoots]

maybe suggest she wears a thin panty liner during until she becomes regulaf and it will catch the start, and explaim to her that you can normally feel your period when you start having enough blood to come out onto your pants.
also maybe have a system incase she starts or leaks during the nigt? maybe that she will strip the affected sheets and put them somewhere, and when you see thrm youll remake the bed, or she can?

[MariaVonTrapped]

Thanks Beans, I have told her she will most likely feel it. Have also said to help herself to pads and clean pants anytime, let me know if the bed needs changing, and wake me in the night if needed.
And 3 - thank you so much, it's lovely to think I'm helping!

[yellowdaisies]

You can certainly wear panty liners every day if you want. They're not like think towels.

[MariaVonTrapped]

Thanks yellow

[GasLIghtShining]

Pantyliners are a good idea.

As far as night time is concerned could you put a towel over the sheet and then another sheet over the towel so that if there are any problems she can just take the sheet and towel off and not have the hassle of changing sheets in the middle of the night.