Dp has a son ( nearly 12) from his 1st marriage, he and ex split before his son was 1, over the last 7 years dp has had a troubled relationship with his son often going months at a time without seeing him ( his son choice) dp always kept in touch phoned regularly, popped in to exes house to see son and would tell him he wanted to spend time with him etc.
The last year or so things seemed to improve and he spent time with his son regularly and his son enjoyed coming to mine for weekends to spend time with us and my children and when I got pregnant his son was pleased and happy about a baby brother/sister.
Our baby arrived August last year and dp son saw her 3 times between her birth and Xmas and since then has refused to spend any time with partner, and 98% of the time refuses to even speak with him on the phone.
So now we are at 6 month since he
Has seen his dad or his sister.
Dp has suggested this week that he wants to take our baby over to his exes to see his son and I honestly not sure how to feel about this or if this is a good idea?
I'm guessing the baby has something to do with his son not wanting to see him and while I understand he is currently having no relationship with the baby I'm not sure taking her over to his exw house will help, if his son continues to refuses to see him his exw certainly isn't going to want dp and the baby sat at her house on a regular basis! In this whole time dp son hasn't shown any interest in the baby or asked to see her etc.
Where do we go from here? I'm thinking that dp needs to work on his relationship with his son before he worries about his sons relationship with the baby!
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123janemain · 28/05/2015 09:08
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