I'm totally at my wits end and don't know what to do...
I know some of the things I'm going to say will probably sound like I'm being horrible about my DSC, I'm not, I'm just trying to be totally honest about the situation and how I feel because I've spent years now thinking and being told by DH "it's just a phase...they'll grow out of it...it's just kids being kids blah blah". But I don't know how much more of this I can take and I'm worried about my own DCs.
I've been with DH for over 11 years now, we have DD8, DS12 (mine from previous relationship), DSS14 and DSD16.
Obviously the kids were all young when we met, things have always been up and down and we've always had trouble with DSS's behaviour but its gradually got worse and worse. He first started getting in trouble at school for hitting when he was 6 and despite help from all angles..mental health, support workers, a charity for troubled kids etc...his behaviour has got progressively worse. He now rarely goes to school. When he does go to school he's slways getting in to fights, he got permanently excluded from his last school but now attends a school which are trying their best to get the best out of him, he's not interested.
I'm worried about him because it's just a matter of time before he messes with the wrong person and gets in trouble with the law. He's had the police come to his home and had a bit of a warning but so far no actual legal proceedings.
My DCs have been subjected to bullying and violence, I've been hit on a number occasions too.
DSD is a lovely girl but she's got a horrible circle of friends. She's a bright kid but her predicted GCSE's are mostly D's. Too bothered about being cool and boys to care about her exams.
They stay with us EOW and after the last time they stayed i stripped the bedding off their beds and found Nitrous oxide canisters stuffed down the side of DSS's bed.
My friend had told me about this craze a couple of weeks earlier so I knew what it was instantly.
I'm absolutely fuming that he's brought something that could potentially harm or even kill my kids in to my home - a place where my kids are supposed to be at their safest.
DSC are coming tonight but I'm getting all worked up about it already.
I don't want that boy around my kids anymore. I've tried and tried and tried my best over the years and I feel like just throwing the towel in, he's not a boy I'd allow DS to be friends with normally but yet I'm letting them share a room!
I'm worried about what's going to become of DSS but I'm really worried he's going to drag DS down with him, especially as they're close in age.
DH says he's gonna talk to him tonight but for me I've just had enough n don't want anything to do with him anymore.
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Problems with DSC...I'm ready to walk to protect my own DCs :(
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tallulahlah · 20/03/2015 12:46
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