...to bang my head off the step parenting wall. I am not in the market for a flaming and most certainly not in the mood for any 'darling' flowery shit!!
Between my partner (not married) and his daughter (17, going on 10 or 25 depending on what she can get out of it) are slowly turning me from a fun loving, sunny person into a stereotypical wicked stepmother. In their minds at least.
So as not to drop feed, I have no kids of my own, lost 3 in the 3 yrs I've been with P. Not the OW, his ex left for OM taking all her kids, 2 that P raised as his own. This happened years before I was on the scene but now I'm around they won't see him at all.
P's D has been difficult from day dot towards me. I'm the only P her dad had ever had apart from her mum. I have had tantrums thrown over everything from me moving in, she hadn't given her permission (wtf?) although she only stays over 1 day a wk. It wasn't exactly planned tbh, I just stayed over more and more until I was kind of absorbed in.
She claimed to be allergic to my cat and said she didn't want him living in the house. Lucky for her he died very suddenly a month later (don't!! It has crossed my mind too and I can't go there.) her family has been truly awful to me. Shouting and swearing, banging in the windows in the night, malicious text messages and finally managed to drive a wedge between my step sister and I and we no longer talk. (I have no idea how this happened or what was said as my sis won't say.)
I have honestly never said a bad word to P's D. I notice her new hairdo, (wow, green really brings out your eyes ) have given her money to take her dad out for Father's Day, give her lifts on demand request, you get the idea.
Last week I complemented her on a successful test situation that she sailed through. I told her it was something I struggled with and well done to her. She stormed out in tears because I was being 'mean to her.' Even P couldn't understand what I'd said wrong. He went after her and after half an hr came back and said she was upset and could I maybe apologise
She's put the kabosh on P and I moving to the city (his suggestion and I was so excited having lived there for years in the past.) she said she didn't want him to go and guess what? We're not!!
Last night I had a few vinos and let my mouth go, when as usual she rushed to close her bedroom door as I passed. P kicked (gently as if you would tap someone to get their attention) me from under the covers to shut me up but immature as it was she needed to hear that I was pissed off!
If you've made it this far, give yourself a pat on the back. Feel slightly better having ranted that out. P off to work without speaking to me but hey-ho. Tantrums seem to be the only language he understand.
Anyone else want to bang their heads on my virtual wall?
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fackinell · 01/11/2014 11:21
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