Hi I'm new here and quite wary of posting as have been on another similar site and found some people to be very judgemental but really looking for some support so here goes and sorry for the long post!
My DD is 13 weeks old and she is my first and I absolutely adore being a mum. I live with my OH of 3 years and we have his 6 year old daughter eow and have done for the past 2 years. She and I get on great and since birth of DD she hangs in my every word, is helpful and adores her little sister. My problem is my OH and his lack of boundary setting with her; I've seen people use the term Disney dad on here and it is so apt! dsd has recently moved house with his ex for the 4th time in her life and is adjusting to her mum being with a new partner and his 2 kids plus her elder siblings being teenagers and not being as involved at home anymore and so naturally when she is here she is clingy with her dad and also me to be fair. The biggest point of contention when she is here is her wanting him to sleep in her bed or get in with us; when I have been away for the night in the past or he takes her to his mums for a visit, they always sleep in the same bed..I am not suggesting anything sinister but I just don't know how healthy it is. I didn't sleep in my parents bed when I was younger- yes we had cuddles but I was always put back in my own bed and I just think as she has her own bed, she should be in it. I'm questioning my own beliefs here as he makes me feel that I am in the wrong for asking her to go back to her own bed...we have no intimacy as it is ( I have no sex drive it would seem!) but feel we have even less chance of this happening with a 6 year old in the bed. I am feeling really low about it all really, any support or advice gratefully received ??
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Jenham41 · 17/11/2013 12:40
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