Hi all, I have two step daughters 16 + 12 who atm can't even bare to look at me and I don't know what to do. We also have a young baby together.
We have them a couple of times a week and although I wouldn't say we've ever been close we'll always make polite conversation with each other when they visit.
Out of the blue last week there mum said that they won't be coming to stay anymore and my husband would have to see them alone. We were really shocked but the children wouldn't speak to him, instead the eldest text to say that 'we have the perfect family and they're just in the way' ect. Lots of what she said was directed at me so I replied so I could clarify some of the things I'd been accused of and to reassure them that I really did want them here. I said that I also feel pushed out at times and that I thought we could all make more of an effort and may be do more things as a family.
They came to stay for the first time since the messages last night and it was awful. I said hello and was ignored and the eldest walked staight to her room. I tried to make conversation with the youngest but she would only answer my questions and no more. I went out for an hour and when I returned they were both chatting away with their dad, and then shortly after I got back the eldest asked him to take her home.
I can't understand I they have gone from chatting to me one week to hating me and not wanting to see me the next. I understand that they're jealous of the new baby ect but this feels so personal and I don't know what to do. I honestly do think that there mum has been fueling the fire as the wording in the messages didn't sound like they were coming from a teenage girl. I feel like they've been brainwashed and there's nothing I can do about it.
Anyway, this morning I'm in bits. I feel angry with my husband (no sure why) and I'm worried for my marriage and my babies future. I feel like there going to drive a wedge through my 'perfect family'. I actually feel physically sick at the thought of their next visit.
Please can anyone offer any advice or is anyone in a similar situation? Please don't have a go at me though, I've come here because I'm desperate.
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CountryGal13 · 18/07/2013 08:25
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