When my DPs ExW does not want DP to do something she says "if you do X DS (aged 5) will be upset"
These things have included:
using my car to collect DCs (now have a joint car so it is a moot point)
stay overnight with DP since they split over 2 years ago (this is due to happen soon thankfully)
go to any places they went as a family
The most recent is his DS not being allowed to meet old family friends in case he find this confusing and asks questions...
It tends to tally with things she does not want to happen and works like a magical force on DP who then accordingly does not do the thing she is against in case his DS is upset.
Now I absolutely understand he wants to protect his DCs from any unneccessary upset and this is fed by his guilt over the marriage breaking down. But I don't think it is acceptable that she uses their DS emotions as a tool to control DPs behaviour.
This may well be naff all to do with me, and I don't have any DCs, just the bump but AIBU to find this weird and manipulative?
And not boding well for the future...
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Is DSCs Mum being manipulative or is this ok?
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parttimer79 · 16/05/2013 18:23
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