Not feeling robust enough to post in AIBU. Background- been with dh seven years, married for two. Have no dcs together, dh has two dss 16 & 18 live with us f/t, and dsd living with ex. I have 2 dcs also living with us f/t. I get on well with dsd whenever she visits, but after spending most of my relationship trying to 'win over' both dss, i have given up. They would never initiate a conversation with me, only answering yes or no, lots of silent car journeys on school run with ss2. Mr Disney's had numerous 'conversations' with them in past where they wouldn't give reasons for their behaviour, just say they don't like me without giving an actual reason. (not ow). Neither will now communicate with me in any way, shape or form.
Dss 2 leaving shortly to live with ex as found job where she lived, dss 1 (nearly 19) staying for foreseeable future. This is my dilemma- We are booking a summer holiday, taking both mine & dh parents and my two dcs. Dh quite rightly wants to invite all his 3 dcs too. I have told him that i fully understand this, but that i can't bear the thought of being on holiday 24/7 with two people who refuse to communicate with me whatsoever (it's bad enough at home) and that i may bow out of this one unless his ds's are willing to have a family meeting and change their behaviour to me. (We both know this is never going to happen; we have tried once before where they sat there refusing to discuss, just nodding at everything, then carried on exactly the same).
I feel let down at dh's inability to say to them "If you continue to treat witchof with disrespect, such & such will be the consequence", and actually carry it through, but also see his point that why should he not have the pleasure of having his ds's on holiday.
Am i being totally unreasonable?
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witchofmiddx · 15/05/2013 12:32
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