Been with b/f for over 10yrs, son came to live with us in 2006, nothing but problems, issues from day one, nearly had a breakdown with the frustrations of trying to do the right thing by this boy but seemingly getting no thanks or anywhere in doing so=b/f and ss moving out of home, kept a relationship with bf. Fast forward to day, asked b/f and ss to move in with me and let's try again, it's been four months and already I feel I've made a mistake. SS doesn't wash, appears to sleep all day and is up all night. B/F does nothing about any of this. Eventually about to burst I raise these concerns with B/F=a huge argument where I am told to butt out of him raising his son. Agreed I would keep out, now 7 weeks since then I am about to burst again, ss goes nowhere near the shower, lies in bed all day and is up all night so nothing changes. I've really tried to ignore it, pretend it's none of my business but I just seem unable to do this. I don't want to see his son wasting his life away in a bedroom, doing nothing but play video games, I also don't want to share my home with someone who thinks washing is not for him. I am also wondering if it's time to call it a day with b/f as clearly my opinion counts for nothing, plus I can't get my head around him thinking his son being like this is somehow ok, it all feels completely abnormal to me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, I love my b/f very much but feel so resentful towards him right now. And lastly, son is very pleasant, polite boy with good manners so other than this I don't find him unlikeable but this not washing is putting me right off.
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