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Anyone suspected the DH ex exaggerates DSC health condition for attention?(111 Posts)
Please see my other post re past experience.
I feel bad even thinking this but this but its 1 big drama when this child is ill on her mothers part. There's always 'bits' added on about when she is ill and 'how ill' she is. She has a headache and is rushed to the doctor. She has difficulty breathing, put on oxygen, chest xray clear but doctors sent her home because she lives so close to the hospital (really? if she was that ill would they let her home?) She's not disabled nor special needs but is dealt with like she has a terminal illness by her mother. Sounds harsh but I'm sure I'm not alone in this.
Anyone else want to share?
But is it too much to expect posters NOT to automatically assume the worst? Instead of the sarcasm in your first post, would it have killed you to ask "why couldn't you have a room for DSD/DSDs things?" then I could have explained. Just because I am a stepmother it does not make me the devil incarnate. Neither does it make DH an evil father who abandoned his child.
(As it happens I was responding to Petal in my first post, and she DOES know that I am in the Army, she does know my history, so I don't need to explain the backstory to her)
Eww 'gifting' him to me? Wow, just wow. Could you be any more stepford if you tried?
You are kidding me, fog! Second wives should be grateful that their DHs first wives no longer wanted them - I've heard it all now
I would do anything to have prevented my DP from going through the pain and loss of his marriage breakdown - I'm not grateful to his exW for her behaviour that led to the end of their marriage, he is scarred for life, their DCs have suffered and their extended family have suffered to. Why on earth should I be grateful to the woman who caused my DP so much pain?
fogclearing your posts are dripping with sarcasm and bitterness.
notadisneymum I feel exactly the same about my DH having to endured what he did.. I would have done anything to prevent him experiencing it.
Thirded. DH was pretty broken when I met him. That's not good for ANYONE.
MeaninglessStrife it IS another whole thread your bitterness (rightfully so) should not taint all OW/SM's with what your experience is though all respect to you.
We had the opposite to OP. DSS's mum didn't give a shit about what dss was eating or drinking as a child (no where near enough fruit or veg, 2 litres of coke a day!) now at 18 has major self confidence issues over rotting teeth ( not to mention the agony) She didn't give a shit that he suffered greatly from severe hay fever in the spring/summer. Wanted his hair long but didn't wash/check enough for nits so he constantly had them.
When I came along when dss was 6 (NOT THE OW) and tried to take dss to the dentist for teeth/ doctors for hayfever and manage nits was told to fuck off. DP had tried all these things as well many times but because he was NRP he had no power unless she agreed and she DIDN'T EVER!
Even though DP up until he was made redundant and at the same time lost his sight in 2009 he paid over half his wage to his ex.
As soon as dss turned 18 and left school he was promptly kicked out of home as he wasn't bring in any money (no benefits and while trying to find a job nothing around his mums)
He came to live with us, he has registered with our dentist and is slowly getting his teeth fixed. He registered with our doctors and is now medicated for hayfever in the spring/summer. He is now allowed to do what HE wants with his hair. He is now with our help working PT.
If only his now alcoholic mother would stop calling DP abusing him down the phone and texting dss that she does not want him at HER house, and realise that while dss will always be her child that he is NOT a child anymore at almost 19 and she keeps pushing him away.
So while we have had the opposite from the OP I can totally accept the opposite extreme can and does happen.
Problem is the stepparent rarely knows the EXP.
They have a distorted view from DP, hardly makes for a fair judgement.
I am of course a horrendous ExP, because I packed and then left at the front door the bag of clothes, toothbrushes etc for a 2 day stay with their father. That I was stressed as parent had just died was ignored and a vitriolic little diatribe of text messages ensued.For the first time in a year, EXP and his new DP bought some undies , 2 T shirts and 5 pairs of socks for them - whoopee. However, did they stay at their house, no all sent back to me - they are not allowed to leave any trace of their existence in the new life.
Forgot to say I get no maintenance.
theydeserve All situations are different, which is where the problem lies - my DPs ex, for instance, demanded for months that DP removed all trace of the DCs from his home between visits, and insisted that they pack suitcases for contact visits.
The very thing that you find unacceptable from your ex, she expects from DP. Your ex would be able to successfully co-parent with someone like my DPs ex, because they share similar values regarding that issue
Whoa this is way out of hand I am telling it like it is and its well noted through all my OH's family and friends how insane his ex is. This womans older children have attempted to bully my daughter. WHY would they do that huh? They go out of their way to get on the same bus as her and purposely sit next to her, get their friends to try and befriend her friends!! Its pathetic and childish and I wanted to hear others experiences. I wasn't the cause of their break up OVER 5 YEARS AGO and neither are my children. SO YES vent I shall!! the woman is vile and I haven't reacted. I consider this an adult way to deal with it.
Bear this in mind I have a good relationship with his older 2 girls because they have a different mum!! I don't tread on her toes and she doesn't tread on mine. 1 of them is ill and I'm around I take them to the doctors and she's more than happy with that. To me thats how it should be, not this diabolical drama that has NOT been created by me.
Oh and the other kids she has don't see their dads either for similar reasons....they wouldn't dump their new families so she blocked access....THAT says it ALL
When you live in this type of situation you know how frustrating it can be so thanks to others for support xx
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