Lovely step mums i need help understanding

[typoqueen]

i dont know what to do, me and my ex and his new wife have always had a good relationship especially where my son is concerned however lately she has been a well a bit odd as in very juvenile and saying things about me that she knows is not true for example a mutual friend asked me why i would do a silly thing like place my ex details on a dating web site? and is it true that we were thinking about getting back together? and that i text my ex several times a day, the only time i text him is to say what time i will be dropping ds off or pick him up and he does the same if he is picking up or dropping off so thats maybe 2 texts a fortnight and the occasional text to tell him when parents evenings or special events are happening at school, my ds (12) has also said she keeps asking him if his dad as been to mine for visits?, me and ex have been divorced 10 years and was mutual split, he does not come round to my house except to pick or drop ds off and he is only in the house a few mins, we are all in our 40s but this all feels like teenage stuff, i do intend to talk to her about it, have not said anything to the ex as i wont go behind her back, but i truly do not understand what this is all about can anyone help me understand what may be going through her mind and how i should tackle this...i feel like just ignoring the whole thing but worried it will just get worse if i do, any advice will be greatly appreciated

[earlyriser]

I may be wrong but I wonder if ex is using you as an alibi for the fact he Is having an affair.

[snigger]

Be super careful is my only advice - 'mutual friends' are great but so much can be lost in translation. I know DH & I and DSD's Mum had so much antipathy caused, in hindsight, 98% due to perception of third party commentary.

Assume the best till you have proof of the worst, is the best advice I can offer. Don't be a doormat, but tread carefully.

Don't ignore it.

Thoughts are with you xx

[marriednotdead]

Am thinking the same as earlyriser

[typoqueen]

thank you, will take my time and think this through a little longer, the thought of him having an affair and using me as a alibi never even crossed my mind but im not going to jump to any conclusions, i will carry on as normal, but will have a chat to her to find out if she has any problems with me, not going to mention things i have been told, just say i have an uneasy feeling that things are not right at the moment, just hope im going the right way about it

[VeremyJyle]

Exactly what Earlyriser said, that jumped out at me straight away