I feel safe(ish) asking this here. Nobody I know in RL is in the same situation as I am. Most of my friends are first wives with kids and husbands. No-one I know has a partner with children from a previous marriage.
Right now things are tough for me. My DP doesn't want any more children and he doesn't want to get married again. He's always been honest about this and I've always hoped he'll change his mind. Now I'm getting older I feel as though there's nothing I can do to change his mind and to a certain extent I am very sad that I have lost the chance of meeting someone who will marry me and have children with me. (I am nearly 37).
I have taken on his children and always endeavoured to treat them as I would my own children. I am kind and compassionate to them and they love me and miss me if I'm not around. Their mum is hard work - emotionally labile and IMO emotionally abusive to the children. I feel responsible for creating a safe and stable relationship for them.
Right now I feel as though I'm staying in this relationship to protect my partner's children from going through yet another break up. Has anyone else done this? Am I mad? Can someone out there give me some consolation?
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origamirose · 29/04/2012 10:09
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